Emzical
Well-Known Member
Has anyone discovered the code of neurotypicals? I’m currently very confused about my position in correlation to them.
I feel like I have always had some kind of sign over my head which makes NT’s feel obliged to leave me out, take the utter piss and treat me so differently than everyone else. Has anyone worked out why they do this?
As a female I can reflect the social norms and get by (only when I have majorly recouped for a few days), so why when, I don’t do anything out of their norm am I treated so strangely?
The things these “friends” say are only said to me and I know they wouldn’t dare treat anyone like it. For instance, I know a girl at uni who will shout “racist” (especially in public) because I’ve misheard her strong Indian accent or she’ll call me a ***** for no reason. Behind closed doors I am not interested in a friendship with her but I front this “best friend” persona and put a lot of effort in for someone I see as an acquaintance at best. I have spent endless hours on the phone to her despite hating phone calls, to settle her homesickness and boyfriend problems. Yet she still has the audacity to call me what she wants when I’ve seen her treat other friends with the upmost respect.
My first friend at uni would always whisper “slut” under her breath but I was always dressed conservatively but fashionably. She decided to avoid me despite living in the same dorm and going to the same lectures. She now hangs round tackily dressed girls who she obviously holds in high esteem as she’s copying their clothes.
I have a friend who can leave my messages unread for days and when reflecting her behaviour, she has started to message me more. Seems like a game of “ I only want you when you don’t want me”.
I’ve done the whole adding people I vaguely know that I went to school with on facebook that apparently everyone does yet I end up getting ignored or unfriended for no reason.
I have been through so many years of “friends” treating me like this and I’m not sure why. I don’t put off a needy victim vibe and they’re all very aware that people don’t upset me, or I just drop them and don’t bother with them again.
Everywhere I go I feel like a second-class citizen, I even felt beneath my boyfriends group of friends till I taught him how to behaviour towards a girlfriend.
With uni work, I put in so much effort and the tutors mislead me into thinking I have secured a very high grade, yet when it comes to the grade release I am left disappointed with mediocre grades.
I also have an alternative or as people mistake me punk image, which just makes people assume I’m some sort of dick that needs to be put in her place. I have had to inform many people of authority who have treated me unkindly about my condition which then corrects their behaviour.
Why can’t people just be considerate towards EVERYONE not just change to avoid discriminating against a “disability”?
Why does everyone continually lie?
Also have not had the pleasure to meet any other 18-25 yr old females on the spectrum and would really appreciate anyone who would like to chat or friend me on here. Please don’t feel forced to.
Thanks
I feel like I have always had some kind of sign over my head which makes NT’s feel obliged to leave me out, take the utter piss and treat me so differently than everyone else. Has anyone worked out why they do this?
As a female I can reflect the social norms and get by (only when I have majorly recouped for a few days), so why when, I don’t do anything out of their norm am I treated so strangely?
The things these “friends” say are only said to me and I know they wouldn’t dare treat anyone like it. For instance, I know a girl at uni who will shout “racist” (especially in public) because I’ve misheard her strong Indian accent or she’ll call me a ***** for no reason. Behind closed doors I am not interested in a friendship with her but I front this “best friend” persona and put a lot of effort in for someone I see as an acquaintance at best. I have spent endless hours on the phone to her despite hating phone calls, to settle her homesickness and boyfriend problems. Yet she still has the audacity to call me what she wants when I’ve seen her treat other friends with the upmost respect.
My first friend at uni would always whisper “slut” under her breath but I was always dressed conservatively but fashionably. She decided to avoid me despite living in the same dorm and going to the same lectures. She now hangs round tackily dressed girls who she obviously holds in high esteem as she’s copying their clothes.
I have a friend who can leave my messages unread for days and when reflecting her behaviour, she has started to message me more. Seems like a game of “ I only want you when you don’t want me”.
I’ve done the whole adding people I vaguely know that I went to school with on facebook that apparently everyone does yet I end up getting ignored or unfriended for no reason.
I have been through so many years of “friends” treating me like this and I’m not sure why. I don’t put off a needy victim vibe and they’re all very aware that people don’t upset me, or I just drop them and don’t bother with them again.
Everywhere I go I feel like a second-class citizen, I even felt beneath my boyfriends group of friends till I taught him how to behaviour towards a girlfriend.
With uni work, I put in so much effort and the tutors mislead me into thinking I have secured a very high grade, yet when it comes to the grade release I am left disappointed with mediocre grades.
I also have an alternative or as people mistake me punk image, which just makes people assume I’m some sort of dick that needs to be put in her place. I have had to inform many people of authority who have treated me unkindly about my condition which then corrects their behaviour.
Why can’t people just be considerate towards EVERYONE not just change to avoid discriminating against a “disability”?
Why does everyone continually lie?
Also have not had the pleasure to meet any other 18-25 yr old females on the spectrum and would really appreciate anyone who would like to chat or friend me on here. Please don’t feel forced to.
Thanks