I think I might have Asperger's.

[Calcifer]

Recently I’ve been reading a lot about Asperger’s Syndrome. I became interested in it because I have an interest in psychology and tend to look up everything I can about an interesting subject when I first discover it. I first saw an example of Asperger’s in the movie “My Name Is Khan”.

I’m surprised to realize I have a lot of the symptoms that qualifies a person for Asperger’s. The symptoms that I recognize in myself are generally from what other people, mostly family and random people, have informed me that I do, without me actually being aware that I do it.

Many of these things match what is usual for a girl with Asperger's Syndrome. It would definitely explain why I never 'get it'.

So, I asked my mom if she'd take me to get a diagnostic.
And she got really mad.
And... I don't know why.

Why would she get mad if I'm asking for a diagnostic? It doesn't cost any money. And, if she doesn't have time to take me, I could ask my grandmother (which just got my mom even more heated when I suggested it).
I don't get it.
She had no problem diagnosing my little bro of ADHD, didn't even seem bothered suggesting a diagnostic for my little sister for bipolar disorder. Why would she get so worked up if I wanted to know if I had Asperger's?

Eventually, I thought that she didn't want to take me because she didn't know about it. So I start listing off symptoms that applied to me. Each one she evaded by insisting that I've always been that way, that was just the way I was. Or, she'd completely ignore me.

I don't get why she's getting so worked up...

She even said that I should stop reading about diseases and go read the bible... that one I didn't get.
I told her that it wasn't like it was a mental disease, like schizophrenia. My mom's a little stubborn though. She just yelled at me to drop it and that nothing was wrong with me. I'm not really good at saying what I think in ways that make sense... so I just left.

So, does anyone have a clue what might be bothering her?
And, how can I convince her to take me? I'd feel so much better knowing that it isn't just me.

 

[richbebo]

My mum is in the same situation kind of, she has been remaried and taken on some new kids one of which she suspects of having aspergers, she raised me so she most probably can recognise it when she sees it but her husband( also kids dad of course) wont have any of it when she tries explaining it to him. I guess even though Aspergers is NOT a disability and theres nothing to be ashamed of, parents just have a hard time accepting that there might be something different about there children, its just natural for any parent. I'd say you should learn as much as you can until you are completly sure that you have it then explain to your mum that you have done this, that your cirtain and you strongly think she should take you to find out officially. If she still doesn't listen then its really up to you to get the diognosis on your own, good luck.

 

[Sean2222]

My mum is in the same situation kind of, she has been remaried and taken on some new kids one of which she suspects of having aspergers, she raised me so she most probably can recognise it when she sees it but her husband( also kids dad of course) wont have any of it when she tries explaining it to him. I guess even though Aspergers is NOT a disability and theres nothing to be ashamed of, parents just have a hard time accepting that there might be something different about there children, its just natural for any parent. I'd say you should learn as much as you can until you are completly sure that you have it then explain to your mum that you have done this, that your cirtain and you strongly think she should take you to find out officially. If she still doesn't listen then its really up to you to get the diognosis on your own, good luck.

Not according to division of developmental disabilities which I have been part of for a few years. It is indeed considered a developmental disability. Among other comorbidities (other disorders that go hand and hand) that go along with it that can also be debilitating even if they are not considered technically disabilities. It all depends on the person, the impairments, and how long they have been going on. But just curious, you still getting wasted all the time? Had to ask

 

[Sean2222]

Recently I’ve been reading a lot about Asperger’s Syndrome. I became interested in it because I have an interest in psychology and tend to look up everything I can about an interesting subject when I first discover it. I first saw an example of Asperger’s in the movie “My Name Is Khan”.

I’m surprised to realize I have a lot of the symptoms that qualifies a person for Asperger’s. The symptoms that I recognize in myself are generally from what other people, mostly family and random people, have informed me that I do, without me actually being aware that I do it.

Many of these things match what is usual for a girl with Asperger's Syndrome. It would definitely explain why I never 'get it'.

So, I asked my mom if she'd take me to get a diagnostic.
And she got really mad.
And... I don't know why.

Why would she get mad if I'm asking for a diagnostic? It doesn't cost any money. And, if she doesn't have time to take me, I could ask my grandmother (which just got my mom even more heated when I suggested it).
I don't get it.
She had no problem diagnosing my little bro of ADHD, didn't even seem bothered suggesting a diagnostic for my little sister for bipolar disorder. Why would she get so worked up if I wanted to know if I had Asperger's?

Eventually, I thought that she didn't want to take me because she didn't know about it. So I start listing off symptoms that applied to me. Each one she evaded by insisting that I've always been that way, that was just the way I was. Or, she'd completely ignore me.

I don't get why she's getting so worked up...

She even said that I should stop reading about diseases and go read the bible... that one I didn't get.
I told her that it wasn't like it was a mental disease, like schizophrenia. My mom's a little stubborn though. She just yelled at me to drop it and that nothing was wrong with me. I'm not really good at saying what I think in ways that make sense... so I just left.

So, does anyone have a clue what might be bothering her?
And, how can I convince her to take me? I'd feel so much better knowing that it isn't just me.

Maybe your mom is concerned that all her children might end up having some sort of 'disease' and she can't accept it. She wants you to be the one who is 100% normal and can't accept her oldest not measuring up to her standards. My mom had me diagnosed 3 different times and yet still remains in slight denial. Still doesn't make for any excuse for her to not allow you to go and get evaluated. If it feels right to you and you know it can be beneficial just find someone else to take you or to get there.

I'm also very much into psychology. So much so that when I have seen counselors/therapists/ etc. I have always felt like I could do their job better than they could. I definitely know myself and most others well enough to do so They're like "you have so much insight and knowledge into things" and try to kiss my *** but at the same time it makes them mad because I'm not someone they can talk or brainwash into doing whatever they say lol.

-sean-

 

[richbebo]

Not according to division of developmental disabilities which I have been part of for a few years. It is indeed considered a developmental disability. Among other comorbidities (other disorders that go hand and hand) that go along with it that can also be debilitating even if they are not considered technically disabilities. It all depends on the person, the impairments, and how long they have been going on. But just curious, you still getting wasted all the time? Had to ask

Lol, not since i woke up with oe hell of a brutal hangover new years day and ended up sleeping through most of it.

 

[Calcifer]

My mum is in the same situation kind of, she has been remaried and taken on some new kids one of which she suspects of having aspergers, she raised me so she most probably can recognise it when she sees it but her husband( also kids dad of course) wont have any of it when she tries explaining it to him. I guess even though Aspergers is NOT a disability and theres nothing to be ashamed of, parents just have a hard time accepting that there might be something different about there children, its just natural for any parent. I'd say you should learn as much as you can until you are completly sure that you have it then explain to your mum that you have done this, that your cirtain and you strongly think she should take you to find out officially. If she still doesn't listen then its really up to you to get the diognosis on your own, good luck.

My mom's boyfriend is kind of like that (he'll even make you feel patronized). I've read so many articles already and I'm really convinced that I have it. She even admits that I have valid points, but doesn't see the good regarding my getting a diagnostic. She says that it's just society giving me a label. I've told her that they sometimes offer programs that could help me with my social skills and such but she'll still against it. She's asking if I can just have it and be quiet about it. :huh:

Maybe your mom is concerned that all her children might end up having some sort of 'disease' and she can't accept it. She wants you to be the one who is 100% normal and can't accept her oldest not measuring up to her standards. My mom had me diagnosed 3 different times and yet still remains in slight denial. Still doesn't make for any excuse for her to not allow you to go and get evaluated. If it feels right to you and you know it can be beneficial just find someone else to take you or to get there.I'm also very much into psychology. So much so that when I have seen counselors/therapists/ etc. I have always felt like I could do their job better than they could. I definitely know myself and most others well enough to do so They're like "you have so much insight and knowledge into things" and try to kiss my *** but at the same time it makes them mad because I'm not someone they can talk or brainwash into doing whatever they say lol. -sean-

Maybe... she is always mentioning how I'm 'her good girl' compared to her other kids... (don't get in trouble, don't argue back, decent grades)

lol the counselors and therapists do that? That's pretty funny.

 

[Sean2222]

My mom's boyfriend is kind of like that (he'll even make you feel patronized). I've read so many articles already and I'm really convinced that I have it. She even admits that I have valid points, but doesn't see the good regarding my getting a diagnostic. She says that it's just society giving me a label. I've told her that they sometimes offer programs that could help me with my social skills and such but she'll still against it. She's asking if I can just have it and be quiet about it. :huh:




Maybe... she is always mentioning how I'm 'her good girl' compared to her other kids... (don't get in trouble, don't argue back, decent grades)

lol the counselors and therapists do that? That's pretty funny.

And how does it feel to be miss perfect in her eyes ? Because my mom kind of has always had a similar view of me, and would never accept anything less. Oh and about the therapists, basically yes :s But it's not fun when noone can ever relate to you or what you are going through no matter how much knowledge or experience they are supposed to have. People have this annoying tendency to patronize you and try soo hard to convince you (and themselves) they have a clue when they don't.

-sean-

 

[Jessikar]

Hi.

I went to the doctors yesterday to be referred. If you haven't already I would at least go by myself to the GP and ask for a referral as the waiting list for a psychiatrist is 8-12 weeks!