I think I’m screwed.

[Starflowerpower87]

I have been wearing Tena underwear for a few days now. I find it hard to make it to the bathroom on time. When I was wearing them I hadn’t showered for 4 days so I got a yeast infection. I only like to shower twice a week because I find it exhausting. I’m not even sure not showering is what caused the infection. They are warm and don’t let my crotch breathe. It could be they just don’t agree with me.

I’ve been thinking about moving into a group home. Does anyone know if they would force me to wear diapers if I have a hard time making it to the bathroom in time? I haven’t actually had an accident in years. But I’ve come close recently. I feel screwed because I don’t want to wear those things. I don’t want to have to shower every day. If that would even help.

 

[tree]

Have you tried scheduling toilet breaks at regular intervals?
Aka going to the bathroom based on time interval, not on
the physical sensation of urge?

 

[Starflowerpower87]

Have you tried scheduling toilet breaks at regular intervals?
Aka going to the bathroom based on time interval, not on
the physical sensation of urge?

No. I suffer from constipation too so I doubt that would work. I always need to go in the morning. I think I should stick to that.

 

[tree]

OK.

I thought you were talking about peeing.

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

I have been wearing Tena underwear for a few days now. I find it hard to make it to the bathroom on time. When I was wearing them I hadn’t showered for 4 days so I got a yeast infection. I only like to shower twice a week because I find it exhausting. I’m not even sure not showering is what caused the infection. They are warm and don’t let my crotch breathe. It could be they just don’t agree with me.

I’ve been thinking about moving into a group home. Does anyone know if they would force me to wear diapers if I have a hard time making it to the bathroom in time? I haven’t actually had an accident in years. But I’ve come close recently. I feel screwed because I don’t want to wear those things. I don’t want to have to shower every day. If that would even help.

In my experience, many group homes will try to make you wear the protective underwear. They will also almost surely insist on daily showers. The group homes have health and safety standards they must meet.

 

[Ari7]

Hi. In my experience, as a woman, doing pelvic floor exercises helped with the accidents. As well was keeping that part of myself clean and using underwear that lets the crotch area breathe. And controlling liquid intake before bed. And if you can go to a doctor, the better.

 

[Starflowerpower87]

In my experience, many group homes will try to make you wear the protective underwear. They will also almost surely insist on daily showers. The group homes have health and safety standards they must meet.

But what do they do if adult diapers cause infections because they don't let your skin breathe?

 

[Tired]

But what do they do if adult diapers cause infections because they don't let your skin breathe?

Adult diapers themselves do not directly cause infections, but they can contribute to skin irritation and infections if not used or changed properly.

 

[Starflowerpower87]

Adult diapers themselves do not directly cause infections, but they can contribute to skin irritation and infections if not used or changed properly.

Oh okay thanks.

 

[Starflowerpower87]

I'm really overwhelmed. My independent living support worker thinks I should wear adult diapers. But I really can't afford them. And I don't want to take a shower everyday. That isn't good for your skin any way. We spent all day getting price quotes on diapers so the program would reimburse me. But it comes out of my wallet first and they pay me back a month later. I just can't afford to ear them. I hope she doesn't pressure me to wear them. I'm so overwhelmed. I think I should stick to yoga and kegal exercises. Maybe I should make a doctors appointment.

 

[Judge]

In my experience, many group homes will try to make you wear the protective underwear. They will also almost surely insist on daily showers. The group homes have health and safety standards they must meet.

Agreed. Technically such specialized residential facilities must legally abide by regulatory practices and liability requirements as specified by state law. Likely parallel to requirements similar to assisted living facilities, but with focus on the needs of autistic residents.

As to whether they rigidly follow them or not is anyone's guess. However it's prudent for anyone contemplating living in such a group home to assume they will.

 

[Ari7]

I'm really overwhelmed. My independent living support worker thinks I should wear adult diapers. But I really can't afford them. And I don't want to take a shower everyday. That isn't good for your skin any way. We spent all day getting price quotes on diapers so the program would reimburse me. But it comes out of my wallet first and they pay me back a month later. I just can't afford to ear them. I hope she doesn't pressure me to wear them. I'm so overwhelmed. I think I should stick to yoga and kegal exercises. Maybe I should make a doctors appointment.

I come from a country that takes showers every day. It's not harmful, but necessary due to high temperatures. I know it's exhausting. But I do try to at least clean with soap and water the necessary parts at least. But if you can't maybe adult diapers are the only options. Good luck!