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I would love a hug

Hedgehog Instigator

Hedgehog Instigator

Chomp chomp chomp!
There should totally be like an ASD scale, because physical contact is all over the board.

I am totally cuddly and lovey, but I hate my face being touched. Kissing creeps me out on the neck's OK though.

How about you? And more importantly how do you cope when it comes to relationships?

I hide wiping kisses off because I know it hurts feelings!
 
Had similar kwirks but I found reasons to get over them for special people.

I used to wipe off kisses all the time and learned to hide it. Now I wipe them off more because it tingles my OCD than my actually having a problem.

Last girl I dated was opposite of OCD actually. I found myself just... getting over some of things that bothered me because my kwirks were getting in the way of being closer to her.

Still wash my hands 10 times while cooking and don't like people kissing me for no good reason. Unless they are special, I would rather just prefer a fist bump or pat on the shoulder. Nothing more.
 
Im only affectionate with people I know,like I love to cuddle and kiss my husband but it's harder for me to cuddle other people,my aunt always ask me to cuddle her and Im pretty reserved when it comes to my husbands friends like they try to cuddle me and while I try to cuddle them back I feel awkward and sometimes go stiff,and yes I don't like kissing strangers but I only like kissing my husband.
 
I really don't mind and actually really enjoy any touches from my girlfriend but aside from her...

I hate it when my parents give me a pat on the back or want to hug me, or when friends bump me on the shoulder for whatever reason. If a patient at internship touches my shoulder or something to thank me I can still feel their hand on that spot 10 minutes later and it's really uncomfortable.

I don't mind touching people in a purely professional way, like helping them remain balance when standing up or giving a handshake at the start of a conversation. Perhaps because it is an expected touch and the intentions of it are perfectly clear, I'm just weird xD
 
I like cuddling, but I eventually get tired of it, usually around the same time that my partner would like become more intimate. Kissing is okay, but I don't like a lot tongue, and sloppy kissing is just gross. Like with cuddling, I can only tolerate so much kissing. But I guess I have to be in the right mood. When my ex tried getting close to me I would often freeze up when he touched me. It took me a long time to get comfortable with him.

I really don't like to be touched when I am stressed out. Maybe firm hug from someone I trust would be nice, but a conciliatory pat or a hand on my shoulder just freaks me out. In fact, I find most light touch about as appealing as having a wet whipe slowly draped across my skin. It's just gross. I often have to rub the spot where I was touched as the sensation lingers otherwise.
 
Adora said:
Im only affectionate with people I know,like I love to cuddle and kiss my husband but it's harder for me to cuddle other people,my aunt always ask me to cuddle her and Im pretty reserved when it comes to my husbands friends like they try to cuddle me and while I try to cuddle them back I feel awkward and sometimes go stiff,and yes I don't like kissing strangers but I only like kissing my husband.
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It's weird to cuddle with your aunt
 
Datura said:
I like cuddling, but I eventually get tired of it, usually around the same time that my partner would like become more intimate. Kissing is okay, but I don't like a lot tongue, and sloppy kissing is just gross. Like with cuddling, I can only tolerate so much kissing. But I guess I have to be in the right mood. When my ex tried getting close to me I would often freeze up when he touched me. It took me a long time to get comfortable with him.

I really don't like to be touched when I am stressed out. Maybe firm hug from someone I trust would be nice, but a conciliatory pat or a hand on my shoulder just freaks me out. In fact, I find most light touch about as appealing as having a wet whipe slowly draped across my skin. It's just gross. I often have to rub the spot where I was touched as the sensation lingers otherwise.
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You described how I feel so perfectly...
 
By strangers, I avoid being touched.
With friends, I very strongly dislike being touched but if I absolutely must, I try to tolerate it.

With an established romantic partner, I actually am huggy :) and love to hug, cuddle, hold hands, (sometimes) kiss, and I really enjoy physical intimacy. I cherish the pleasures, warmth and tenderness of any physical contact with a man I love.

Where it gets interesting: I'm tactile-hypersensitive all over, which means I only can handle relatively firm touches, because very soft, light touch feels like fire burning my skin.

Twilight Zone: In a few areas of my body (not all over), I'm tactile-defensive. This is a freaky, involuntary, sudden Kung Fu that happens when these few areas are touched. Its not a concern when my mate is made aware.

I enjoy crashing touch for fun, like good hard high-fives and the funny concussive dance move in "The Bump." :D The brain's craving that proprioceptive input!

Guess I'm huggy, but with specifics. ;)

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I like physical affection as long as I understand it's intent. So yea, strangers brushing arms with me is initially repulsive and casual acquaintances giving me a high five is uncomfortable but tolerable. It's how I perceive intent. If someone I have never considered as a romantic interest touches my back or strokes my arm it's more likely to be upsetting bc I need to process the info to determine if I like it or not. However if it's a romantic partner; I love it, I can't get enough. I don't actively want to touch other people, ever, except if I find them attractive and it's reciprocated.
 
Datura said:
I like cuddling, but I eventually get tired of it, usually around the same time that my partner would like become more intimate. Kissing is okay, but I don't like a lot tongue, and sloppy kissing is just gross. Like with cuddling, I can only tolerate so much kissing. But I guess I have to be in the right mood. When my ex tried getting close to me I would often freeze up when he touched me. It took me a long time to get comfortable with him.

I really don't like to be touched when I am stressed out. Maybe firm hug from someone I trust would be nice, but a conciliatory pat or a hand on my shoulder just freaks me out. In fact, I find most light touch about as appealing as having a wet whipe slowly draped across my skin. It's just gross. I often have to rub the spot where I was touched as the sensation lingers otherwise.
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This sounds exactly like me. I will add too here that sexual contact can sometimes be difficult for me too. I hate the sound of any sort of licking or slobbering. I guess I do it to keep my NT partner.

I really cannot stand any touch from strangers. Arms touching, not fun. Warm toilet seat? OCD freak out.
 
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