I would say my 13 year old is on the sprectrum but her Mother refuses the idea.

[disconnected]

This is very frustrating. I’m divorced and re-married. My 13 year olds mother refuses to accept her daughter is on the spectrum. She is my exact mini me and I hate to watch her struggle so much. I think it would help her to get tested, but im wasting my time with her mother. Any tips?!

 

[Au Naturel]

That's tough! Being divorced make it tougher. I can suggest that you be there for her when you can. If you get intermittent custody of her you might line up a session with a psychologist who specializes.

It sounds like the mother is in denial which is not surprising. Most parents are in denial until it gets rubbed in their faces. We don't believe that which we don't want to be true. OTOH, it might not be a spectrum issue and something else is going on. So I'm going to double down on the psychologist thing.

 

[Suzanne]

She sees it is an insult to her self, for her daughter to be "tainted" and so, the only way, is to show the positive attributes to being on the spectrum.

Mothers are especially like this, because they do feel it is a slight against them personally, as they beared the child and subconsciously, desire to have a mini them.

 

[disconnected]

Thanks. I’ve kind of accepted that when she is 18 she can make her own choices with the information provided.

 

[Mia]

My spouse was diagnosed five years ago. He still has not accepted the fact that he's HFA, and denies it. I'm using his computer right now (with his permission), as my hard drive went 'kablooey' three days ago. It looks as if he's done a lot of research on autism. So hopefully his perception is changing. I could help him, but this is his own journey. Some people remain in denial for a long time.