Couldn't you say that about every aspie trait, though? So could this still be a typical aspie trait, even though there are exceptions on both sides? Just curious...
You could, and that's why I'm slightly hesitant about a fair share of "traits", especially considering I've been dealing with mostly aspies or potential ones throughout my life and while they're obviously on the spectrum, they're not really similar based on "stereotypical" traits... unless you generalize really broad. And I'm not sure if generalisation is the best tool to define an aspie.
The common denominator they all have how their brain works in terms of putting information together. That in itself seems quite a lot like an aspie mindset (and perhaps a certain trait). I mean, plenty of things like social anxiety, while present in a group of aspies are often a result of certain things. It's the inability to understand certain things, and similarly, the ability to make sense out of the most abstract strings of information.
Earlier today someone on another aspie forum posted something that can probably be mentioned here as more of an explanation.
Someone had a topic going on Oxytocin and how it could be a treatment for autism since it would increase empathy. Don't ask me the exact specifics and how much of it is true, just bear with me on the following.
Someone else responded in pointing out that even if it were true, being more empathic, it doesn't mean that we would recognize it. It might lead to excessive reciprocal responses that have little to do with showing genuine empathy since we'd still have no clue when it would be appropriate.
I mean, empathy often is mentioned as a problematic area for people on the spectrum, but is it empathy itself that's the problem? Or the way your brain tries to make sense of it and apply it in a practical sense.
And that's how I feel, at least with my friends, how their brain works. None of them have social anxiety in forms I sometimes read upon on this forum.
