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I'm scared to be an older person with autism

AGXStarseed

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(Not written by me)

Many people on the spectrum become very isolated, and this is likely to get worse with age



My neck has been refusing to turn properly for some time. Perhaps it’s hurting but I’m not sure – like many people with autism I can find it hard to recognise pain and even harder to voice it. I should probably have had it checked out months ago but in the absence of family, partners and friends to point this out, I haven’t.

Although my neck is affecting my driving, it takes a near car crash to make me go to a noisy, alien health centre. The doctor who sees me is kind enough but he moves into my space, touches my neck and stares when he asks questions. When he diagnoses the problem as “a bit of wear and tear” I grab my prescription and run.

Later, swallowing the prescribed anti-inflammatories, it occurs to me that “wear and tear” is probably medical speak for getting older. I’m in my early fifties and it’s getting harder to convince myself that my autistic self-reliance will hold out forever. Before long I may need some level of support – and that scares me.

Little is known about ageing and autism. The original cohort of children with autism described by Leo Kanner in 1943 is now entering old age but autism research has remained heavily focused on children. The charity Autistica (A UK branch of Autism Speaks) says research into adults with autism amounts to just 60p per person per year and according to research director James Cusack “we don’t even have a basic understanding of how to support adults with autism as they age”.

Focus on childhood research means that many older adults with autism today may not have been diagnosed and risk having autistic symptoms mistaken for mental illness or dementia. And concurrent with a lack of research and knowledge is a lack of understanding and training in adult health and social care. This matters, as the isolation that many people on the spectrum experience due to social and communication difficulties is likely to worsen with age. When you have very limited support networks, you may become increasingly reliant on social care.

Many of us on the spectrum replace social relationships with intense areas of special interest. What, I wonder, will happen when the brain cells just can’t do quantum physics any more? Where will the model train collection acquired over 70 years fit in the constrained space of social housing or care homes? Will those of us who have lived a cocooned existence suddenly be expected to turn into social butterflies in a reminiscence group?

Homogenised solutions for care of older people are unlikely to work well for anyone. For people with autism, they can be damaging and distressing. Rigid routines and the ability to close the door on the world when it gets too much may be crucial to managing anxiety. With autism it is easy to be overwhelmed by sensory input from noise and people standing too close. Having a chirpy care worker turn up at unexpected hours to make small talk and suggest joining bingo at the day centre is unlikely to be of benefit, however well meant.

I hope by the time I need age-related support that health and social care professionals will appreciate the importance of consistency and routine in managing anxiety in autism. I’d like it if they understood why loud noises, unexpected touch and doors left open can be anathema. I’d prefer it if I’m not assumed to have mental health issues or the onset of dementia because my brain processes information differently.

Given the present lack of research, knowledge and training in ageing and autism, I’m not optimistic that any of this will have happened by then.

Susan Dunne has Asperger syndrome. She writes and talks widely about autism related issues and is the author of A Pony in the Bedroom (Guardian Bookshop). You can follow her on twitter @sueandspot


SOURCE: http://www.theguardian.com/social-c...5/nov/11/autism-aspergers-older-ageing-scared
 
This really worries me, too. I joke that when I reach fifty or sixty I should take up a really dangerous special interest, like archaeological work in war zones, so my chances of living long enough to need that kind of care are dramatically reduced... Like bison, who wander off from the herd when they get too infirm to keep up.

60p per person per year is pathetic. If I recall correctly from my time in the UK, the price of a Pepsi was around 90p... I'm sure it may be even worse in the US, because so few people in my area at least seem to know what Aspergers is.
 
I'm 53 and wasn't diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome until I was 47. I have no family or friends and am totally dependent on social care - this is no way for a human being to be living.
 
I am old and I like being a Aspie. People see me as "that weird, old, smart guy" and that is fine with me.
 
(Not written by me)

Many people on the spectrum become very isolated, and this is likely to get worse with age


Stands to reason, although I'm not sure I would associate voluntary isolation as being "worse". It offsets many of the stresses of socialization. That I can "cherry-pick" most types of social interactions I want and limit the rest.

Being on the spectrum? For me it's not so bad compared to the rigors of trying to survive as an older person. But no, I don't really have any support system beyond my own resources. I will die alone and I know it.
 
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I see the changes associated with aging as just challenges; like playing an RPG in real-time.

My go-to Scripture for such things is,

"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Jesus, Matthew 6:34

Or a secular saying,

"By the yard, life is hard. By the inch, it's a cinch."
 

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