I'm tired

[GDGC]

I'm tired of going day after day feeling like I have nobody to turn to. For years, I had considered joining a forum dedicated to the Autism Spectrum, but I never followed through with that plan. As an aspie, I am always afraid to try new things worrying that won't appeal to me. However at the same time, I spent the past 20 years of my life yearning for someone to talk to, waiting to one day meet a friend that I could always rely on.

Last fall, I transferred to a University and had to settle with living on my own for the first time. I wanted to go to college partly because I saw it as a chance to start over and forge a new identity for myself. However I thought the same thing before when I started middle school and high school, and it soon became clear that not much had changed about myself that would allow me to finally start making friends.

It is this scenario that brings me here today. I don't know how well joining this community will help my mental state, but I want to be optimistic. I just no longer want to feel that I am alone in this world, so I really want to communicate with other people.

 

[Major Tom]

Welcome to the forums. I'm sure you'll find a lot of people that relate with you here.

 

[Sarah S]

Warm wellcome to the forum

Youre no longer all alone

 

[SusanLR]

Welcome!
I think a lot of Aspies feel alone even when with others.
I always have, but, being here and communicating with others is enjoyable.
How we can feel like we're alone in a world of people, I don't know, but, many have expressed
this same feeling.
Hope you find some comfort and not feel so alone here.

 

[tree]

 

[Solphire]

Hi GDGC and welcome! I think you will find that many of us here joined for the exact same reason, I know I did! This world in which we live is such a confusing, lonely place to be. I have found great solace here and it is my prayer that you do as well.

What was the main reason you joined to the forum?

Here's a link to a recent thread about it.
You are no longer alone. <3

 

[Nitro]

Hi GDGC

 

[GadAbout]

Welcome!

 

[Raggamuffin]

I think further education can help shape your personality. I don't think you'd adopt or find a new identity per se. You'd simply be enhancing your own persona as it grew with new knowledge and experiences.

Regarding trying new things, perhaps look to people closest to you first. See if they have any hobbies or interests that might interest you. Having someone there whilst you try new things might help.

I've lost count of the amount of new things I tried and the money I've wasted trying to find my niche. It's not that I want to discourage you from trying. But I found if I tried a new hobby with someone already doing it, then I didn't have to spend money on introductory exposure to said hobby.

As for the community here - it's the warmest and friendliest forum I've ever met and I've frequented a few. As with anything, you get out as much as you put in. Stick around and share your thoughts, experiences and feelings. There'll be people who can relate, help, or are simply willing to listen to what you have to say.

I hope you enjoy your stay.

Ed

 

[Wolfnox]

Howdy.

 

[Judge]

I just no longer want to feel that I am alone in this world, so I really want to communicate with other people.

You've found your own "tribe". This is a great start, being able to directly interact with your own kind to discover that you are no alone as much as you think.

That in learning about us, you learn about yourself.

Welcome to AF.

 

[Federico Fernández]

First of all, welcome to the forum from a newbie, from Argentina I want you to know, that you're no longer alone. :love you:

 

[Alexej]

HI there and welcome, there are lots of us here; some more vocal than others. Hang around a bit and you will get to know us, chip in with the flow of conversation and you will get to know us quicker - and we you.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

I joined a Church and Church groups I know a bunch of people but I still feel lonely at times. Especially when I compare myself to them on how easy they can socialize with each other it makes me more depressed. I however have a friend who is the leader of the life group who knows of my ASD and is helping me.

So I know where all of you are coming from.

 

[Aspychata]

Sometimes l like being alone, other times, coming here, checking in with this virtual tribe is definetly an advantage.
We can run things past and see if we are on track in regards to what goes down. People do support you.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

I understand how socializing can make you tired. I did so much socializing yesterday that when I got home after a hour I went to bed and fell asleep right away. I usually have trouble falling asleep.

 

[Fact Ten]

Hi, GDGC. I believe the saying goes, "Big same."

Welcome from another (fairly) new member.