Improvement After Diagnosis

[Frixion168]

Very recently I discovered I have AS. My emotions in response to the diagnosis has mainly entailed a sense of relief. I feel validation as a human being who struggles with these various issues.

For the first time in a long while I feel much more hopeful and I wanted to share with you all this moment I had where my diagnosis helped me.

My boyfriend was browsing the Internet and I couldn't see that anything was wrong. Then I looked again and his eyes were red as if maybe he was hiding that he cried earlier or that he was going to break down or his eyes were just irritated??. I didn't know how to respond, so I quickly asked him if he was okay. He said yes, so I let him be and went to bed to avoid the situation.

I stayed up laying in bed when I realized how difficult it was for me to empathize with him, and knowing the reason I couldn't empathize with him was due to AS actually helped. I waited and soon after he came into bed, and I actively changed my general response. I told him he could talk with me and that I am there for him. He went on about mortgages, renovations, and career. Usually I would have a narcissistic sounding response about how those things affect me as a lame attempt to try to connect (although that habit did slip in a couple times throughout the conversation). This time I just gave him my full attention, and validated his experiences. It was obvious to both of us that we made a connection, and he was open about how grateful he was to be able to share.

Anyhow I'm sure that sounds incredibly boring to you all, but for me that was an epiphanous moment that gave me tremendous amounts of hope. I knew I had AS so I was able to recognize the struggle I was having, and therefor was able to compensate for it. AND I actually succeeded!

This diagnosis is scary, but I can see that overall knowing I have AS is the first step to resolving the issues caused by my AS. Soon I hope I'll be able to tap into the benefits of having AS. Very excited about the future!!!

 

[Southern Discomfort]

I think it's important to know from a diagnosis what areas you have struggles with but never allow yourself to stop trying, don't ever handicap yourself just because a piece of paper says you're not good at something.

They do say that generally after years of gathering knowledge of how to approach topics and learning to do the dance of socialising we balance out the deficits later in life.

 

[Marmot]

I'm two years post my 'official' diagnosis, and while part of me has said "It all makes sense now, lets use this information and march forward", the remainder of me is still saying "What in the hell just happened and what does this really mean ?"

It's been my observation thus far that we all have different levels, acceptance & saturation rates with AS, so there's therefore no true comparison schedule between any two individuals, but whatever your journey is going to be here, I'm glad you got a glimpse of light with your diagnosis instead of seeing a door closing......