Internalized Racism

[KevinMao133]

Perhaps the biggest issue with me is the fact I have internalized everything that was being told

Growing up as an Chinese guy, I always felt inferior and still do

Even though I try my best, this is an issue that can’t be ignored

I try my best to work hard, to not think about those things, but it is increasingly getting difficult as it is increasingly apparently

It’s not just in north America though. I find that people in Canada treat me better as I have friends, people I know. The worst part is when I go back to China. People there treat me like garbage, like they don’t even acknowledge me. Even when they do, they do it because of my family, not who I am as a person

I wish I can do better when it comes to dating but I’m probably going to be single for a while. I don’t think people like Asian guys and I don’t believe they really care about us, no matter what they say

 

[blitzkrieg]

Have you tried dating other folk with a Chinese ancestry who live in the United States?

 

[KevinMao133]

Have you tried dating other folk with a Chinese ancestry who live in the United States?

I’m in Canada but no

I find Asians to be hard to approach. It’s easier for me to talk to a white person

 

[Jumpinbare]

Growing up as an Chinese guy, I always felt inferior and still do

I never understood Chinese-bashing. Still don't. Chinese civilization stretches far back when most of the rest of the world were pretty barbaric.
I read the second Robinson Crusoe novel "Further Adventures of Robinson Crusoe" where he is rescued and then ends up traveling back to England the long way around the world. When he meets the Chinese, the book describes them as primitive and backward. I lost any remaining respect I had for Daniel Defoe at that point. I had lost most of it already, seeing the way he referred to the South American natives, but then he writes pretty much the same way about the Chinese people!

 

[KevinMao133]

I never understood Chinese-bashing. Still don't. Chinese civilization stretches far back when most of the rest of the world were pretty barbaric.
I read the second Robinson Crusoe novel "Further Adventures of Robinson Crusoe" where he is rescued and then ends up traveling back to England the long way around the world. When he meets the Chinese, the book describes them as primitive and backward. I lost any remaining respect I had for Daniel Defoe at that point. I had lost most of it already, seeing the way he referred to the South American natives, but then he writes pretty much the same way about the Chinese people!

It’s like they don’t see us as humans

Funny how black people were primitive as well as barbaric too, back in the day, but they seem to accept them. Makes no sense

 

[Aspychata]

You would love Hawaii. It's just very expensive to live there. There are so many different interesting people there. I really missed Hawaii and the people when l relocated to the mainland.

 

[Misty Avich]

I like Chinese people. They always seem so polite and respectful, and they don't usually squander but prefer to be decent citizens that put use into the economy when they open their Chinese food restaurants. Sadly I don't see many Chinese people about so much these days but every Chinese person I have ever come into contact with was polite, friendly and respectful.

 

[jsilver256]

Big question, do any of your Chinese friends and family feel this way?

 

[NDR2]

I’m in the US, and there’s certainly been a history of racism against Chinese people here (and Asians in general - it’s still part of the structure of the country). One law that was in place for a long time was the Chinese Exclusion Act of 1882, which forbade Chinese people to immigrate to the US. It wasn’t repealed until 1943.

 

[Levitat0r]

"Inferior" is a rather poor choice of words for "lower on the social pecking order". The latter being likely true. I just recently watched a news video about some guy who was being taken to trial on major charges for shooting fireworks from a helicopter at a Lamborghini safely and in the middle of nowhere. And the first thing that crossed my mind is "What, he's being tried for living the American Dream?", given that Hollywood and the Discovery channel endlessly do the equivalent, and then some, and are celebrated for it. I instantly assumed he had to be a minority, and of course he is.

 

[paloftoon]

I don't feel that the term "inferior" is a bad choice of words personally, but either "inferior" or "lower on the social pecking order" is true.

As a fellow Asian, I experience some of the same type of things as user KevinMao. If as an Asian, you don't speak your mother tongue, culturally speaking, it can be hard to connect with more traditional Asians. If you're a gay male, Asians tend to be less attractive overall. That may've changed with younger generation Asians with #StopAsianHate. I can go much more into general perceptions and personal experience about lgbt and Asians if someone really wanted me to. But the lower level of the socialness does lead to feeling inferior in just about all aspects of one's life to a point. So, sadly, "inferior" is not really off at all.

KevinMao, I must ask, are you straight?
Do you live near or in a big city?
Do you live on your own or with family?

These things can make a big difference for dating.