Interrupting Others

[chincey_james]

Does anyone else struggle with the urge to interrupt others when they are talking?

Sometimes, I want to interrupt because the speaker isn't getting to the point. Other times, I do it more out of an anxious impulse that I can't fully explain. My partner has pointed this out to me and encouraged me to be a better listener.

I'm curious if this is a common experience for people on the spectrum. It's always possible I'm just a poor listener.

 

[Progster]

Yes, I sometimes interrupt people because I have something to say and can't wait till they finish, because I want to finish their sentence, or because, as you say, they aren't getting to the point fast enough. I try not to do it, though, I know it can be annoying for others.

 

[Misty Avich]

I'm a good listener, for someone with ADHD. I don't often interrupt mid-sentence. I find people who do that a lot are very difficult to talk to.

My husband does it a lot but I think it's habit with him, as he does it with me more than he does with anyone else. It does annoy me when it does though. I'll literally be talking about something then he'll suddenly say something that has just popped into his head that is completely irrelevant to the conversation.

 

[MildredHubble]

I've managed to mostly control the urge to interrupt. However, if they say something utterly ridiculous, particularly if they are saying something untrue, I usually can't help myself.

 

[Kaz2012]

Yes I do this as well sometimes - also when people are saying things not true or arguing an unjustified opinion where there is factual evidence to the contrary. I also do it when people interrupt me and talk over me as I have a need to finish making my statement

 

[AndyFBlues]

I have the urge to, but I'm mostly able to keep it under control. I've learned over the years that people consider it to rude and are less likely to consider the point that I want to make. I try to let a person finish even if the point is completely wrong. Once the person has finished, I quickly point out that what was just said was pure baloney. I have to admit that I don't have very good filters.

 

[Neonatal RRT]

Does anyone else struggle with the urge to interrupt others when they are talking?

Sometimes, I want to interrupt because the speaker isn't getting to the point. Other times, I do it more out of an anxious impulse that I can't fully explain. My partner has pointed this out to me and encouraged me to be a better listener.

I'm curious if this is a common experience for people on the spectrum. It's always possible I'm just a poor listener.

1. Sometimes I have something to add to the conversation, but the pace of the conversation is moving quickly, or is transitioning to some other topic. It's then when I am most likely to blurt out something and interrupt. Bad form. Awkward. Never is appropriate. Always feel bad. Part of reason why I am more likely to be a quiet listener out on the periphery than actually being a part of the conversation.
2. The problem with being assertive and trying to control the conversation is that I am very awkward and when my mind gets racing ahead of my mouth, I stumble over my words and sound like an idiot. I know it. They know it. Better off keeping my mouth shut. Sometimes better off not even listening so there's no impulse to speak up.
3. Whether I am assertive or removed from the conversation, neither situation is good, but to quote an old saying, "Better to have people think you're an idiot than open your mouth and confirm it."

 

[Aspychata]

Trained myself to mask. Logically, l connect a lot of things together quickly, but l find people have more respect if l just shut-up. So l will be analyzing what people say and the bigger picture. But it's really masking.