Hello,
I am 43 years old, live in British Columbia. I go by the name Oblio here. Have you ever heard the story? It is about a child born with a round head, in a pointed world. When I was small, I would reach a point in the story and sob, and turn it off. In the story, Oblio discovers that everybody has a point. Check it out on YouTube. It is very retro.
Some behaviours I displayed when younger:
-walked on toes
-tactile defensive (dislike clothes)
-inappropriate speaking volume so my ears were checked
-crying and putting a hole in my page if I got a question wrong
-as a new student, I followed my classmates and baaaaaed like a sheep because they all seemed the same and to follow each other and it annoyed me
-among other things
I do not have an ASD diagnosis, and am not sure if I have always felt like an alien due to trauma or biological neuro diversity. I'm okay with being an alien, and don't want to wrongly appropriate neurodiversity. Maybe I am just undiagnosibly defective? This is why I am anonymous. I am generally terribly open, having been described as "the girl in the glass house begging all of the other children not to throw stones". I just fear being more exposed right now.
While I am okay with being an alien, I am struggling with seeing my daughter suffer socially. At 12, she is a beautiful soul, with many gifts. She is kind, honest, accepting, creative, and never bored. At school, she is quite socially isolated, and it hurts to watch. She also does not have a diagnosis. Her language skills are good. She's just a little odd.
Her teacher suggested social skills training, and I kind of cringed. At times I have successfully pretended to be other than I was. I fit in, sort of, but it wasn't a happy experience. The happiest times are always when I can be authentic with other people, and they are also authentic and interesting. I do not think she should be expected to conform, I just wish she had like minded peers at school.
I am 43 years old, live in British Columbia. I go by the name Oblio here. Have you ever heard the story? It is about a child born with a round head, in a pointed world. When I was small, I would reach a point in the story and sob, and turn it off. In the story, Oblio discovers that everybody has a point. Check it out on YouTube. It is very retro.
Some behaviours I displayed when younger:
-walked on toes
-tactile defensive (dislike clothes)
-inappropriate speaking volume so my ears were checked
-crying and putting a hole in my page if I got a question wrong
-as a new student, I followed my classmates and baaaaaed like a sheep because they all seemed the same and to follow each other and it annoyed me
-among other things
I do not have an ASD diagnosis, and am not sure if I have always felt like an alien due to trauma or biological neuro diversity. I'm okay with being an alien, and don't want to wrongly appropriate neurodiversity. Maybe I am just undiagnosibly defective? This is why I am anonymous. I am generally terribly open, having been described as "the girl in the glass house begging all of the other children not to throw stones". I just fear being more exposed right now.
While I am okay with being an alien, I am struggling with seeing my daughter suffer socially. At 12, she is a beautiful soul, with many gifts. She is kind, honest, accepting, creative, and never bored. At school, she is quite socially isolated, and it hurts to watch. She also does not have a diagnosis. Her language skills are good. She's just a little odd.
Her teacher suggested social skills training, and I kind of cringed. At times I have successfully pretended to be other than I was. I fit in, sort of, but it wasn't a happy experience. The happiest times are always when I can be authentic with other people, and they are also authentic and interesting. I do not think she should be expected to conform, I just wish she had like minded peers at school.
Welcome to the mothership fellow alien!
