Introducing myself - Kate

[Katte]

I am 33 years old. Mother of two girls. One has ASC, I'm convinced, but I haven't sought a diagnosis yet. I guess this is the new term instead of ASD. I have an appointment to diagnose whether or not I might have Aspergers next month. I have been told I do. I have scored high on self-diagnosing online tests. At any rate, I feel very isolated a lot because of social problems and trouble making and keeping friends. I keep trying to find a comfortable place to socialize and connect online. Honestly, I wish I had an aspie friend nearby in the flesh that I could just hang out with and talk to. I've mostly had male friends because there is less drama, but I'm not sure how I would do with a female aspie friend because I've never met someone like that in person. It is a little awkward having male friends being married, which I've been for 10 years, so I prefer female autism social groups. But I will enjoy reading the threads and getting to know people not unlike myself. Thank you!

 

[Harrison]

Morning Katte, welcome to AC.

You'll find a great social arena here, look forward to hearing your stories.

Enjoy the stay and don't forget to visit our resource section. Have fun!

 

[Suzanne]

Hello there Kate

I so get you with regards to females. I too, have always preferred men's company, for the same reasons. I made my first real female friend online and we have met and continue to chat every day. She is over 20 years my junior, but we meet in the middle. It was rather amusing to discover she is an aspie too and so, ah that is why we get on so well.

I am also married to an nt, but no children.

Yes, it is very difficult being married and preferring male company. Inevitably when ever we meet couples, I find myself gravitating with the husband and thus, must be very careful.

I have found that male aspies are tons nicer and more respectful that nt chaps. I chat to a couple on private chat and wow they are so refreshing, for there is no issues with them. All too often, when I have chatted with chaps online, it veers to sexual connotation and have git myself into sticky situations, because I am shocked and bewildered and so, a target. No more of that lol

I am so different to other females, that I have felt inferior with my own sex. You will never see me in female toilets, touching up my make up. I dart in and out, as fast as I can; find females too overwhelming.

I admit fully, that I prefer isolation to being social.

 

[Greg]

Welcome.

 

[Christopher Nicholson]

Welcome! I am new myself. Finding out I have asperger's was life changing. Like a great weight lifted off of me. Now I can stop worring about why I am different and focus on how I think and how to improve the quality of life. I no longer feel it's a life requirement to "go out".

 

[Katte]

Thank you everyone! I will need to spend time navigating through the many topics they discuss here. I have learned many characteristics of females with HFA. I have much to learn about psychology, another subject I enjoy reading about. I am a very task-oriented person. I enjoy the arts (who doesn't?) I love music and film, interpretive dance and photography. I like reading about the interests of others. I try to keep a balance in my life between being a mother to my two girls and work and home life and leisure activities. I am thankful for a new way to connect to others here! My mood changes from day to day, but today I am excited about Spring and longer days and eating better and getting my energy back! Hope everyone has a great day!