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Introvert or extrovert

FayetheAspie

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I find it a little confusing trying to figure out which I am. I have several traits common to introverts such as liking to read, over analyzing, and needing some alone time. However, descriptions of introverts often stress that the difference between introverts and extroverts is whether you are drained by socialization (introvert) or gain energy by it (extrovert). Unless being intimidated or something, I tend to gain energy from talking to others unless I am already feeling bad or something and often feel like I am going stir crazy because I can't get out and go do something (meaning hike at a park preferably with someone who is just as excited about looking for new plants, animals, ect., learning something like how to fly a plane or ride a camel or something interesting, taking some interesting science class and being able to infodump about what I learn with someone that is just as curious and eager to learn, ect.) I spend too much time daydreaming conversations with fictional people because I need to talk with people and learn new skills ( not just book knowledge) and have exciting activities to do and not have so much sit at home time.
 
I don't really get drained from social interaction but I do enjoy being home these days - not necessarily alone though. But I do crave social interaction so badly, I just need it. I don't have much of a social life offline so that is why I rely on social media and internet forums for my fix if I don't get it offline...or even if I do.

But at the same time I can be shy. I've never been the life and soul of the party, and I do avoid nightclubs and bars because I find myself feeling shy and out of place.

I think I'm what you call an ambivert, which is a term for having both introvert and extrovert traits.
 
I don't care for parties myself. Unless about 2 birthday parties attended during my early childhood count, I don't think I have ever been to one at all. Don't really think I'm missing out on anything in regard to that.
 
I'd think if there is any metric that can differentiate autistic introverts from autistic extroverts, it may be whether or not they find socialization (intentional or not) to be particularly energy-draining.

Frankly I've always found extroverted people on the spectrum to be fascinating. Some quite charming as well. Though I don't think it necessarily negates some of the same concerns autistic introverts have, especially in interacting with NTs. Occasionally having similar problems with interacting with others as their introverted counterparts.

I'm most definitely an introvert. Even the most favorable real-time social interactions for me can be exhausting, sometimes even leaving me with a tension headache.
 
I can chatter as long as you let me about several fields of science, my 4 or 5 favorite series, some scientific discovery I made or experiment I conducted, an art project of mine, seeing a species that I never saw before, an adventure I had like being outside during a storm, ect. I definitely gain energy from these interactions, often needing time to gallop back and forth to let out the excess energy.
 
I'm definitely in the "both" camp; it's really a question of mood. So many variables come into play in causing me to either crave social interaction or just wanting to be left alone. (I hinted at some of them here.) When at something like a doctor's visit, I can be overly talkative and joking, sometimes annoying the staff. I can also be shy, intimidated and finding it hard to speak. These could both happen in the same visit. I'm contradictory in so many ways. It's why I've been questioning my autism since self-diagnosing twelve years ago.
 
I can chat about anything. I don't have special subjects, I'm just open to anything.

Often when me and my husband are talking in bed we talk about one thing and then the subject very gradually changes without either of us noticing, then all of a sudden we go "how did we get from rollercoasters to kings?" and then we sort of trace back the conversation to find out how one subject discreetly got on to another.

I love talking in bed (or anywhere) about all different things, which the British call "putting the world to rights". It's one of my favourite things to do.
 
When I was a kid my grandparents said they loved having me stay because I would chat with them about stuff like school and hobbies and family and holidays TV shows and everything like that, and they really enjoyed it. I was a very chatty little girl, with both kids and adults. Well, mostly kids really. The only adults I could chat away to was my parents, grandparents and teacher's assistants. My aunts, uncles or friends' parents I seemed to become shy around and sometimes even went mute at friend's houses around their parents. I don't know why.
I could picture my friend's parents asking my friend, "does Misty talk to you?" and them going "yeah, I can't shut her up", and then the parents thinking "oh, maybe she doesn't like me then."
 
Im an introvert, I like being around particular people, but I have limited social energy, and need my alone time to recharge.
 
I was extroverted as a small child but learned to act introverted by the time I was 12 or so. My Mama even agrees that she thinks that I am really a bit of an extrovert even though I usually stay quite in public. I stay quite to stay out of trouble with my Dad mostly. My extroverted tendencies still show around certain people though and sometimes they come out if someone else mentions one of my special interests. I often feel better after these times.
 
From your description I would say you are extroverted, or lean heavily towards extroversion. I will jokingly say your description of activities made me feel drained lol. 😆

I am definitely an introvert, and thrive with solitude. The Covid lockdown was heavenly for me. If I did not have to leave my apartment for food, dog walks, or work, I would probably go weeks at a time and not even move my car. I barely speak out loud at all and feel so much calmer that way.
 
I was always a classic introvert, I simply don't need the company of other people and I prefer being alone. I've been like this since birth. At the same time, when I'm in a crowd of people I'm quite often the one doing most of the talking.

I was always a good talker and I was never shy or timid. Socialising like that is very draining for me, but far less draining than trying to avoid people and trying to hide in a corner and not be noticed. It's also a defence mechanism. I grew up in a rough neighbourhood and to act shy or timid was to be wearing a big sign that says "Easy Victim".
 
I can seem more generally introverted when in hyperfocus mode (researching an interesting topic, observing an insect's behaviour, ect.). Afterwards though I often NEED to tell someone what I did, learned, saw ,ect. I also like to ask questions and learn how things work and why. Some of my questions seem random to others.
 
Introvert mostly for in person communications, but through writings and phone I actually do not mind those, as I learn and express much these ways and see the value in that when I can concentrate more and focus on details, analyzing and exchanging ideas and information rather than focusing on superficial or trivial things.
 
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I feel Extroverts equal Society
Society regards Introverts Negativly
This is how i feel Faye

On the other hand, I'm reading a book by Dr. A. J. Drenth called True Type, e-book actually, he says:

Introversion vs. Extroversion

Broadly speaking, the notions of introversion and extraversion highlight the distinction between self (I) and world (E), individual (I) and collective (E). The ramifications of this E-I divide can be readily observed in everyday life, especially in politics. We often hear, for instance, of people rallying for individual rights, individual liberties, personal privacy, and so on.

Words like “personal,” “private,” and “individual” key us into the fact that an introverted perspective is probably being discussed or defended. On the other side of the spectrum, we see people advocating for public or collective laws, systems, and values. These represent a more extraverted approach.

In politics, as well as in everyday human affairs, we see a constant tension and see-sawing between the desires of the individual and those of the collective, between introverted and extraverted perspectives.

lunarious Comment: Introverted likely Defends, while Extroverted likely Advocates. 3rd Eye see no need to Defend or Advocate.
 
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