alien girl
Well-Known Member
Talking about amount, not quality. Of course you want a kid to eat healthy. But if the kid isnt hungry, do you think it's a good idea to force him to eat, and did your parents ever do it to you, and what were the consequences of that?
My mother used to tell me "You dont get up from the table until you eat." It's not that I didnt like the food. I just wasnt hungry. I was skinny as a small kid, but not horribly so, not anorexic or anything like that.
I dreaded lunches and kept fearing it all morning. I learned to eat when not hungry and developed an eating disorder where I wouldnt eat anything for days, and then stuff myself. Took years to be able to stop, and still have unhealthy eating habits up to this days.
And now I see my mother doing this to my nephews when my sister brings them over, not the same thing because she cant force them to eat. But she keeps saying, "Just one more bit." "One last bite." "Another one." "Finish the soup". "One more bite and you can stop." My nephews arent terribly skinny or anything. This is just unnecessary.
One time a friend of my mother saw her on the street and thought I was five although I was seven. My mother screamed at me after he left that I'm small because I dont eat. I think she was afraid she'll look like a bad mother if I'm small and skinny. She was always very paranoid to what people might think of her.
My mother used to tell me "You dont get up from the table until you eat." It's not that I didnt like the food. I just wasnt hungry. I was skinny as a small kid, but not horribly so, not anorexic or anything like that.
I dreaded lunches and kept fearing it all morning. I learned to eat when not hungry and developed an eating disorder where I wouldnt eat anything for days, and then stuff myself. Took years to be able to stop, and still have unhealthy eating habits up to this days.
And now I see my mother doing this to my nephews when my sister brings them over, not the same thing because she cant force them to eat. But she keeps saying, "Just one more bit." "One last bite." "Another one." "Finish the soup". "One more bite and you can stop." My nephews arent terribly skinny or anything. This is just unnecessary.
One time a friend of my mother saw her on the street and thought I was five although I was seven. My mother screamed at me after he left that I'm small because I dont eat. I think she was afraid she'll look like a bad mother if I'm small and skinny. She was always very paranoid to what people might think of her.
after years of conflict Mom now blends them for me...everyonce in awhile she gets sneaky and only half blends them and acts so surprised when I actually do notice...
