Amethystgirl
Active Member
Is it weird I'm turning 40 in March and I haven't dated anyone since I was 22 and it doesn't bug me?
-
Welcome to Autism Forums, a friendly forum to discuss Aspergers Syndrome, Autism, High Functioning Autism and related conditions.
Your voice is missing! You will need to register to get access to the following site features:- Reply to discussions and create your own threads.
- Our modern chat room. No add-ons or extensions required, just login and start chatting!
- Private Member only forums for more serious discussions that you may wish to not have guests or search engines access to.
- Your very own blog. Write about anything you like on your own individual blog.
We hope to see you as a part of our community soon! Please also check us out @ https://www.twitter.com/aspiescentral
Is it weird I'm turning 40 in March and I haven't dated anyone since I was 22 and it doesn't bug me?
- Thread starter Amethystgirl
- Start date
Some of us are destined to lead solitary lives. Some seem to accept it while others don't.
Better still are those of us who do so as a matter of choice. Regardless of peer pressure from those who feel everyone is supposed to be a couple. I came to such a conclusion nearly 20 years ago in my late 40s.
Better still are those of us who do so as a matter of choice. Regardless of peer pressure from those who feel everyone is supposed to be a couple. I came to such a conclusion nearly 20 years ago in my late 40s.
Last edited:
No it's not weird.
Omg. I think that's fine. Some types are very codependent and need someone 24/7. Others are on a solitary path. Just don't believe the hype that you have to be with someone. You are doing you. You are defining you and what you don't need. I still wonder if l should have never dated. What would that look like for me? I guess with the world becoming more chaotic, l am grateful to have someone in my life right now to weather the storm waves and tornados in my life currently.
Xinyta
♤Id driven soul | Broken but not Insane☆
I personally never felt here or there on dating. Chalk it up to immaturity, or general disinterest. Maybe both.
I did have two past relationships.
One from grade school, that I hesitate to call a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. I was not as interested in the same way she was. I was only interested in my personal world namely. She, however, saw me as a simple kind boy she could manipulate til she found someone. She did.
The other wasn't till my twenties. I was living on my own at that point. I ended up meeting my boyfriend, among other friends, who I talked to on Skype. (God, I'm old) Point being, that ended up going nowhere and we both agreed to break it off. I haven't talked to him in a long time. I hope he is doing good.
But I really haven't found anything interesting about being in a relationship. Though I never tried too hard on alot of things. So maybe it's my fault for not putting extra effort in to care. IDK
I did have two past relationships.
One from grade school, that I hesitate to call a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. I was not as interested in the same way she was. I was only interested in my personal world namely. She, however, saw me as a simple kind boy she could manipulate til she found someone. She did.
The other wasn't till my twenties. I was living on my own at that point. I ended up meeting my boyfriend, among other friends, who I talked to on Skype. (God, I'm old) Point being, that ended up going nowhere and we both agreed to break it off. I haven't talked to him in a long time. I hope he is doing good.
But I really haven't found anything interesting about being in a relationship. Though I never tried too hard on alot of things. So maybe it's my fault for not putting extra effort in to care. IDK
You say it doesn’t bug you, but the thread title makes me wonder if maybe it does bug you?
Do you think it’s weird? Do others tell you it’s weird?
You seem to worry a lot about weird behaviors. I wonder where this worry comes from.
@Amethystgirl , or maybe you feel better by putting out your choice, and saying this is me. Accept me for who l am.
I was 39 before I ever dated, and I didn't set out to do that. My future wife and I finally decided, after several interactions, that apparently we were dating. We married at 40.
Amethystgirl
Active Member
I guess I just want to fit in with people. I only asked peoples' opinions because I'm curious and also Valentine's Day is coming up.
Compared to the past, there are many more people who choose to be single / not in a relationship, as well as those who divorced/separated and have chosen not to re-enter a relationship.
While certain things and events are easier to attend or participate in as a couple (e.g. weddings invitations often allow for "plus one" - which doesn't have to be a partner), I'm also seeing more events that encourage participants to attend by themselves, which can make those who don't wish to bring a partner feel more comfortable in attending.
Levitat0r
Well-Known Member
That sort of thing actually really upsets me because I work at it, and I never get anywhere, and it's exasperating to gradually discover you possess traits you're not even aware of which consistently push people away even when you're greeting them and striving to be friendly.
The question of whether I like being entirely alone is a different issue from the failure at meeting people. No, I don't like being alone. I feel like life is meaningless without anyone to share it with. I also don't get people who come onto a forum to tell you they like being alone. No, you don't! You're on a forum!
