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I have notice that when a place have a handbook or a set of policy in place, like a work place or a school... I tent to see it as the description of a person that is not me, but is the person I am suppose to be in this place, so I create a personality that implements all the characteristics the policy describe and then I act out this personality while I am in said place.
I don't know if this is a form of masking or if this is what everyone else do, or suppose to do when they are in this places.
It is almost like when I read the policy it describes the person they want in this place and they expect everyone to be this person, so for me the easy solution is to be that person in this place but stop being that person outside that place.
To give an example, here is an essay that describe how to handshake in the corporate world... granted this is not hard policy, but it is part of the culture of business and it is expected that everyone in this settings learn and perform to do this on the described manner:
https://www.indeed.com/hire/c/info/effective-handshakes
I personally do no like physical contact and I would just avoid doing this... but if my job is in the culture that do this, then I would have to learn to perform this physical contact the closest to how it is described in the link... now, the thing is... I would have to deal with the fact of no liking this kind of contact, while at the same time having to perform a strong handshake... but in my mind I will just create this separation... I am not giving the handshake, the working person I am playing at the moment is the one giving the handshake...
So... I wonder if this is a form of masking? if everyone do this kind of things? how people deal with having to perform a set of policy that is very specific to place?
I don't know if this is a form of masking or if this is what everyone else do, or suppose to do when they are in this places.
It is almost like when I read the policy it describes the person they want in this place and they expect everyone to be this person, so for me the easy solution is to be that person in this place but stop being that person outside that place.
To give an example, here is an essay that describe how to handshake in the corporate world... granted this is not hard policy, but it is part of the culture of business and it is expected that everyone in this settings learn and perform to do this on the described manner:
https://www.indeed.com/hire/c/info/effective-handshakes
I personally do no like physical contact and I would just avoid doing this... but if my job is in the culture that do this, then I would have to learn to perform this physical contact the closest to how it is described in the link... now, the thing is... I would have to deal with the fact of no liking this kind of contact, while at the same time having to perform a strong handshake... but in my mind I will just create this separation... I am not giving the handshake, the working person I am playing at the moment is the one giving the handshake...
So... I wonder if this is a form of masking? if everyone do this kind of things? how people deal with having to perform a set of policy that is very specific to place?
