Issues With My Mom

[Riley]

I love my Mom. Honest and for truly. But I just need to vent here about her. She...She's a strict woman and at the same time, a lenient one. Can't watch True Blood BUT I'm allowed to read the series it came from (The Sookie Stackhouse Mysteries). And (With great reluctance on her part) I've been allowed to read Anne Rice's Vampire Chronicles. Plus she let me get away with watching some R-rated movies.

So, yeah. I don't want any responses that assume she's abusive or negligent before I start this.

She REALLY doesn't trust the internet with things like News or content. This is mostly due to me and two habits: Sneaking around for naughty content and believing almost anything I hear that involves the world ending or what not.
I eagerly told Mom about the Sheila Kearns case where a teacher got in trouble for showing a class The ABC's Of Death. Mom didn't think it was true, given I found it on the internet. We argued.
The only reason I hate & shun Carmilla: The Series is because Mom won't let me watch it. Heard the words 'lesbian vampire' and immediately shot it down. Mom is not a homophobe.

I get REALLY irritated at her optimism. Not just her insistence my brother is a good guy (Which I cannot see). She sees good in me. Now, I tend to self-loathe myself. Mom doesn't share that view.

Not to mention I assume she's a hypocrite. I do live in the past; I hold grudges and try to point out times in the past I helped out and, as a result, means I'm not lazy. Mom tells me to let go of issues. Though she lives in the past by remembering my brother's good moments. Which are LONG gone.

I'm not trying to badmouth my Mom. We just had another fight and I needed to vent.

 

[Adder1234]

Do what I do; don't tell your parents anything they don't need to know. If you know that your mom will react badly to something, don't tell her. It isn't particularly honest but I've been doing it for years and I've never had any trouble with it.

 

[Warmheart]

I am glad you can vent here. I remember feeling irritated with my Mom, too. I hope time, peace, breathing, and quietude relaxes and warms your perceptions.

 

[Kari Suttle]

Do what I've done for years. Don't tell your mom anything she doesn't have to know. To avoid conversation about yourself that might stray into undesirable topics, fake an interest in something about a sibling or something in her life. And unless its illegal, don't ask permission just do it. When you graduate highschool you'll be asked to make huge, major life decisions when ironically a month prior you had to ask permission from the teacher to leave class to go to the bathroom. Teenage years are supposed to be about exploring and figuring yourself out - your own separate identity from your parents. If its not illegal and its not hurting anybody, I see no reason not to rebel a little.

 

[paloftoon]

It certainly isn't easy to be a parent. They are there to be a parent and not your friend. I hope your mom isn't like mine though where my life is somewhat suffocated. I've learned how to deal with it now and it will always be frustrating to deal with. If you ever get to a point like this with your mom, just remember that certain things might not be under your control, but that you want to learn how to deal with things in such a way that they won't affect who you are as a person toward other people negatively.

 

[ChrisN]

<------The old Guy says Mothers Know Best.