It is never easy to forgive.

[kayleecollins]

My ex-husband wants me to hang out with him, like a date. I did not expect him to ask me such since we’re not that close anymore, I mean after that divorce we had a year ago, I decided not to keep in touch with him and stay aloof to guys like him. But destiny must be joking on me; we met again in a foreign tour we both attended a week ago. He talked to me like he never made any mistake in our marriage. Now, he’s asking me out. It’s not that easy to forgive and forget on what had happened. Should I just dump his invitation?

 

[Isadoorian]

I personally would if I were in your position; for me, an ex is an ex for a reason and should be forgotten about

 

[Bolletje]

If you don’t want to date him, tell him exactly that. Tell him you’re divorced for a reason and you’d like to keep it that way. Reconnecting isn’t necessarily wrong, but both parties have to be into the idea and it doesn’t seem like you are.

 

[Appleslime]

My ex-husband wants me to hang out with him, like a date. I did not expect him to ask me such since we’re not that close anymore, I mean after that divorce we had a year ago, I decided not to keep in touch with him and stay aloof to guys like him. But destiny must be joking on me; we met again in a foreign tour we both attended a week ago. He talked to me like he never made any mistake in our marriage. Now, he’s asking me out. It’s not that easy to forgive and forget on what had happened. Should I just dump his invitation?

If you have gone through the hurt that your divorce brought upon you and you have come through the other side, I would seriously stay away. You have proved to yourself that you are strong so I really wouldn't risk going back there again xx

 

[Mary Anne]

You would be surprised at how many ex’s come around to “just be friends” which ultimately means they want one night hook ups for sex. I am not kidding you.

 

[AO1501]

My ex-husband wants me to hang out with him, like a date. I did not expect him to ask me such since we’re not that close anymore, I mean after that divorce we had a year ago, I decided not to keep in touch with him and stay aloof to guys like him. But destiny must be joking on me; we met again in a foreign tour we both attended a week ago. He talked to me like he never made any mistake in our marriage. Now, he’s asking me out. It’s not that easy to forgive and forget on what had happened. Should I just dump his invitation?

I think the priority here to review the reason you divorced, because usually that reason is about weaknesses or failings, or even abuse, which should help guide you towards the answer in terms of whether you want to continue a relationship with your ex or not.

On balance, I'd say that your default should be against it, until and unless you find good reasons why it might, or would, be ok. And even then, watch for whatever behaviours you were not happy with previously, because it is unlikely that an ex will have changed, other than in outward behaviours deliberately intended to make you think previous problems have all been solved - they won't have been!