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I’ve lost my nerve.

Markness

Markness

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I’m at another music show in Austin. That would be the last day of the Oblivion Access event that started near the end of last week. I am surrounded by other show goers but I am too anxious to approach anyone to attempt a conversation with. I’ve lost my nerve. I used to have it and it was especially strong when things seemed to be turning around for the better in my life when Jennifer briefly entered it. But after she moved away, my confidence has faltered back down.
 
Again, you let external happenstance affect you. You need to dig deep and change your outlook to be internally driven. Let the excuses begin in . . . 3 . . . 2 . . . 1 . . .
 
Markness said:
I’m at another music show in Austin. That would be the last day of the Oblivion Access event that started near the end of last week. I am surrounded by other show goers but I am too anxious to approach anyone to attempt a conversation with. I’ve lost my nerve. I used to have it and it was especially strong when things seemed to be turning around for the better in my life when Jennifer briefly entered it. But after she moved away, my confidence has faltered back down.
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I’m the same

Social anxiety is big issue

Hope you get better
 
I thought things in my life were finally turning around but as usual, the universe pulled a fast one on me.
 
I also can’t help but believe that my detractors are still attempting to sabotage my life. They don’t want me to have a girlfriend and think I shouldn’t even have platonic friends.
 
You have to go thru a lot of rejections in life in relationships, jobs, personal accomplishments. However, if you keep this thought process, and understand that life just happens. Jennifer may have planned to move away prior to meeting you. It's something you can't really speculate on. Just enjoy the beautiful time you had. Because if you take center stage with the victim mask, you won't be able to move on. You can keep having a pity party, or you can put yourself out there everyday.
 
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Markness said:
I often feel like I am singled out by the Universe.
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If you feel like the very universe is against you, perhaps this could be a reason why it is so difficult for you to move on from your worries and sadness. That is a mighty force to be up against.

Perhaps, you could think about the universe as a place instead of a great force that cares about any single individual.
 
Rodafina said:
If you feel like the very universe is against you, perhaps this could be a reason why it is so difficult for you to move on from your worries and sadness. That is a mighty force to be up against.

Perhaps, you could think about the universe as a place instead of a great force that cares about any single individual.
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But isn’t my sadness understandable?
 
@Markness
Your sadness is understandable.

I think the feeling of being singled out by the universe to suffer is an exaggerated feeling. You could consider telling yourself a different story than this.
 
I lose my nerve talking to women I don't know all the time. It helps only in these situations.
1 - In a group setting like an event. How I went and talked to Tracy and that single mom from Church.
2 - If she comes up to me. Again rarely happens and when it does it's in a group situation.
3 - A friend or acquaintance introduce me. What happened at a hangout in August.
 
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Rodafina said:
@Markness
Your sadness is understandable.

I think the feeling of being singled out by the universe to suffer is an exaggerated feeling. You could consider telling yourself a different story than this.
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I really hoped that my experience with Jennifer meant that things in my life were finally going the way I wanted them to go. :(
 
Markness said:
I really hoped that my experience with Jennifer meant that things in my life were finally going the way I wanted them to go.
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Yes, your interaction with her gave you great hope. Seeking connections comes with the risk of losing them. Very scary.
 
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