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I've recently realized my "quirks" are actually symptoms and not sure where to go from here

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KyRN

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Hi-
I'm a 29 yo woman who's realizing that every aspect of my life is affected by autism. For years I think I've suspected that I wasn't, "typical," but it's been through the process of my nephew being diagnosed and now my 10 yo daughter's probable diagnosis that I've really done some research and realized, hey wait a minute, asperger's describes ME! I guess I'm high functioning- I'm an RN and I'm independent, but everything is a struggle. I have an identical twin that has recently moved in with me with her 2 boys... And it's a struggle. I Lead a pretty solitary life with my daughter (who I only have 50% of the time) and the new dynamics to my home life is hard. Also I didn't KNOW for sure that the way I think and how my brain is wired was an obstacle. I guess I'm on this app to learn or get advice. I'm thinking about pursuing a diagnosis for myself, but not sure how to go about it. My 3 yo nephew has classic autism and I'm pretty sure my little girl has asperger's so im more focused on getting them help. anyway, HELLO:) to anyone who reads this
 
Welcome aboard :)
I hope you enjoy this friendly community. Best wishes
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Welcome to AC.
Your title to the thread reminds me of my wife’s comments as she has learnt more about Aspergers. Her comment was along the lines of everything she thought she was is just Aspergers, and now she doesn't know what is her anymore.
If you want a book to read, I highly recommend Rudy Simone’s ‘Aspergirls’.
 
That's exactly what it's like, and in some ways it's a relief but in other ways it's depressing to realize who I am is basically a caricature of how i perceive (from media and books) society's idea of an attractive/interesting/intelligent woman. Wah, wah, wahhhhh...
 
KyRN

Welcome to the forums.

Also I didn't KNOW for sure that the way I think and how my brain is wired was an obstacle.
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How would this be an obstacle? It is simply a different way of thinking/living.

Good thing you came here, as most of the people around here will tell you how to deal with situations such as yours. Do not believe that you are wrong, because that is not true.

People here, along with myself will make sure to point you in the right direction if you have several other questions related to Autism. So again, a warm welcome as you deserve, just like every new comer does.
 
KyRN said:
I have an identical twin that has recently moved in with me with her 2 boys... And it's a struggle.
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I'm wondering whether you have considered your sister might also be on the spectrum. There does seem to be a genetic link to Aspergers, so if one identical twin has it, there would seem a very high chance the other does too. The areas that I clash with my boys, and the areas I relate best to them both seem to be related to our expressions of Aspergers.
 
Yes we both suspect we have it. Her special interest IS autism, so she's been eyeballing me for awhile now haha. I've just recently come to terms with it.
 
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KyRN

Welcome to the forums.




How would this be an obstacle? It is simply a different way of thinking/living.

Good thing you came here, as most of the people around here will tell you how to deal with situations such as yours. Do not believe that you are wrong, because that is not true.

People here, along with myself will make sure to point you in the right direction if you have several other questions related to Autism. So again, a warm welcome as you deserve, just like every new comer does.
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Lol got confused trying to reply to your reply. I have a lot of difficulty with social situations, and A LOT of trouble with sensory issues. I thought it was a quirk to have panic attacks at the grocery store bc the florescent lights hurt my eyes or to really hate loud/sudden noises. A lot of things, really. I feel better just reading other's posts, it's very comforting
 
KyRN

I hope I have not offended you. If I did, it was not my intention and I do apologize.

I was simply saying that you should not feel bad about being autistic. Your ways to behave/social interpretation are simply different from NT people (which is in majority in society), which is why people struggle in social situations.

Again, people here will be glad to listen and give you help and tips.
 
I'm not offended! I rarely feel offended:) I don't feel, "bad," exactly but it feels strange. Lol, surprise surprise there was a misunderstanding! That made me laugh (even as I'm typing this I'm vaguely worried that you'll be offended haha)
 
Do not worry, your reply did not offend me at all!

I simply wanted to make sure that everything is alright. I would sleep very badly, knowing that I could have offended someone.
 
Welcome KyRN.

KyRN said:
I thought it was a quirk to have panic attacks at the grocery store bc the florescent lights hurt my eyes or to really hate loud/sudden noises.
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Sunglasses are deffinitely your friend in this situation. People find it odd, but if I have learned anything recently it is to be kind to my senses. Heck, on bad days I even wear them at night.
 
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Welcome KyRN.



Sunglasses are deffinitely your friend in this situation. People find it odd, but if I have learned anything recently it is to be kind to my senses. Heck, I bad days I even wear them at night.
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I usually just avoid shopping, luckily my sister isn't bothered by lights so she goes... But it's funny bc I've totally worn sunglasses when it wasn't exactly appropriate! They made me feel better but I never really thought about WHY they did. Running into casual acquaintances is another reason I dread the store; esp if it's someone that doesn't know I have a twin! Ughhh, the dreaded, "I'm sorry, you have the wrong person," conversation!! I use avoidance mostly; it's kind of sad. Makes me feel pathetic.
 
Hi, and welcome to the forum. I don't have so much trouble with lights, but a lot of trouble with noise :)
 
Hi KyRN Welcome to Central :) I wore prescription sunglasses the last year against low tolerance to bright sun & fluorescent lights which trigger migraine; they were the best thing ever!! Typically, I lost the glasses a couple of months back & miss the feeling I had when wearing them because they gave me a feeling off detachment from the external world which helped prevent sensory overload & also lessened social anxieties because of the eye contact thing. Hope you enjoy your time here, just reading other people's posts without necessarily participating can help sometimes :)
 
Hi KyRN, I'm glad you've joined AC. :)

I, too, avoid shopping for fear of running into people. Actually, I avoid a lot of things for that reason. :D

I also wear sunglasses whenever I go out, even in winter on wet, dark days. They are my mask and feel a bit like my invisibility cloak. :D
 
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