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Just Got Played By A Woman

KevinMao133

KevinMao133

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A girl kissed me on Saturday, she said she loved me, I did to. She also said we should keep in touch, I agreed

However she disappeared

I don’t know but people always play with my emotions

I have no lucky when it comes to meeting someone, probably never will

I don’t understand why people decide to play with others’ emotions, like do they not have self respect?

It’s frustrating, I hate it and I’m scared
 
How long had you known her for?

Disappeared how? What forms of communication did you have with them?

It's 2 days since you kissed. Perhaps she's been busy?

Ed
 
Raggamuffin said:
How long had you known her for?

Disappeared how? What forms of communication did you have with them?

It's 2 days since you kissed. Perhaps she's been busy?

Ed
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Known her since Saturday

She said she has been noticing me. I didn’t notice her, that’s because I don’t notice anyone

I texted, called, no response

She might be busy, we will see
 
I'd call into question you falling in love with someone within a 24 hour period.

She might be busy, or ghosting you. Either is possible. So long as you haven't bombarded her with calls and texts.

Just give it time. If she doesn't reply, then chalk it up to experience. But the fact she said she loved you too - I'd ask if alcohol was involved. If not, I'd be slightly concerned and confused by her behaviour in claiming to love someone she's only known for a short time.

Ed
 
She could have been a prostitute. Or craving a one time thing. I don't think that she really loved you. I'm sorry.
 
I think it's too early to dissect. Just establishing a friendship first is a great goal. I talk to one guy for over a year before we met. And we were friends first. And because of his friendship, l am a way more mature person, l grew so much, and have a lot of respect for him. I find myself treating my soon to be live-in guy way better now. He taught me to be more thankful and understanding and more accepting.
 
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@KevinMao133

Maybe she 'loved' you the way some people
love ice cream. Saying 'love' in a casual way.
Not in a life commitment way.

Also, if kissing and "love" are in the first two
days of knowing somebody, it's more likely
to be "luv." Just an overly positive way of
saying *hey, it's really fun to be with you.*
 
tree said:
@KevinMao133

Maybe she 'loved' you the way some people
love ice cream. Saying 'love' in a casual way.
Not in a life commitment way.

Also, if kissing and "love" are in the first two
days of knowing somebody, it's more likely
to be "luv." Just an overly positive way of
saying *hey, it's really fun to be with you.*
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She also said she wanted to know me better and have a drink

I don’t believe in relationships anyways so I won’t be affected
 
@KevinMao133

If you're not affected, what purpose does talking about
it as a thread topic serve? Just to support your thoughts
that relationships aren't something you can believe in?

If you only met her two days ago, that doesn't mean
she won't ever contact you.

How was this going for a drink supposed to happen?
Did you two exchange phone numbers?
Or what?
 
tree said:
@KevinMao133

If you're not affected, what purpose does talking about
it as a thread topic serve? Just to support your thoughts
that relationships aren't something you can believe in?

If you only met her two days ago, that doesn't mean
she won't ever contact you.

How was this going for a drink supposed to happen?
Did you two exchange phone numbers?
Or what?
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We did

I have her phone number and WhatsApp
 
I would be deeply concerned because she said she loved you after one kiss. And not even knowing you .

Move on forget about her fast . It’s not worth your time or effort . And most important your emotions, don’t let people manipulate them .

I am sure she only loves her self. Leave her in the past where she belongs.
 
I say make a friend. She mat be flighty falling in love that fast, but maybe there is a friendship.
 
KevinMao133 said:
A girl kissed me on Saturday, she said she loved me, I did to. She also said we should keep in touch, I agreed

However she disappeared

I don’t know but people always play with my emotions

I have no lucky when it comes to meeting someone, probably never will

I don’t understand why people decide to play with others’ emotions, like do they not have self respect?

It’s frustrating, I hate it and I’m scared
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Okay my first thought is she was drunk. Sorry this is no reflection on you. The fact that she said she loved you. She doesn't even know you. I would have ran from this girl to tell you the truth. How old are you? She seems like she was very young! This is the type of girl you don't want to be with no offense. I would forget about her. You deserve better and someone who's going to like you for who you are. To me. It sounds like she was just attracted to you physically. Sorry, most likely she was drunk. I would definitely not make a move and kiss somebody I didn't know and then tell them I love them. I'm not going to kiss some random guy. Which is what you were to her since you didn't know you at all.
 
Aspychata said:
I think it's too early to dissect. Just establishing a friendship first is a great goal. I talk to one guy for over a year before we met. And we were friends first. And because of his friendship, l am a way more mature person, l grew so much, and have a lot of respect for him. I find myself treating my soon to be live-guy way better now. He taught me to be more thankful and understanding and more accepting.
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So right. I really do think that things worked out for the best when my future spouse and I were friends first. The ability to enjoy ourselves because we liked each other led to a very natural conclusion of intimacy. Making love with somebody I liked in other ways added a nice dimension beyond mere lust. Because of the experience I also grew, especially feeling so very accepted by her after some shared adventures.
 
I'm guessing Kevin has a good or decent sense of the situation itself, but maybe he didn't express himself well and/or it's hard to express things in an online only medium sometimes where you are only typing/texting and not using audio or video.

It sounds like this woman wanted a cheap kiss/touch and then just found the next thing to interest her more. I'm sorry she did that to you. You're so much better than her. Try to look elsewhere.

If she does respond and doesn't seem to have a good reason, but if you still want to try to meet her anyway after, only tell her you can meet her for things that you plan to do regardless if she is there or not or pick a location near you if you can that is public but easy for you to get to and return from if she screws you over. If she can't make it or doesn't want to come out to you, then just say it's not going to work.
 
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