@Kwik6six, Regarding your first post, I am assuming you are speaking in regards to the differences between "direct" and "indirect" language. We've had these discussions before on here,...it's not an uncommon communication disconnect.
I learned this early in my career,...decades before I found out I was autistic. At work, I would occasionally send out e-mails on one topic or another, but I was rather intrigued by the fact that some people had this habit of "reading between the lines", creating some alternate narrative, then getting upset with something that wasn't said. When an occasional confrontation would take place, I would tell them to read the message again,...as written. These same people would read it with "attitude and emotion" that was not there. It was like they were reading the words,...but interpreting it in a totally different way. They literally could not believe that a person was using direct language!
Not everyone was like this, but I had a few supervisors, managers, and co-workers over the many years that had this trait,...and I would find myself on the backs of my heals trying to explain that when dealing with me,..."Please do not "interpret",...just read the message." Even as an autistic I could see the confusion on their faces,...and some, I know, still thought I was full of crap. They literally could not wrap their brains around the concept of simply saying what you mean,...as it was THEIR experience that one is
supposed to communicate in this cryptic language.
Years of experience later,...I might send out an e-mail maybe once or twice a year,...and even then,...I am careful to edit out anything that might be interpreted as emotion or opinion. Bullet points and simple statements. I am now quite aware of the difference between direct and indirect language,...and I am even more inclined to use directness with people,...but now with even more "editing".
At least in my experience, some people really struggle with this distinction. Some may not be aware of these communication differences even exist other than the fact they end up confused, frustrated, even angry. Pay attention to the news and social media,...some get really upset with their interpretation of something that was never said.
