Kids

[Ashlee723]

I'm 28 yrs old and I've had a lot of obsessions in fact they still change occasionally but right now I think my biggest obsession would be my children, my boys specifically, I have 3. I have this intense need to do everything for them and it bothers me when anyone, other than my husband, goes near any of them. I need a break occasionally, usually from the girls tho (our 7 yr old, and my step daughter) when it comes to the boys tho I'm not really like that (my boys r 4, almost 3 and 1 week) I believe my 4 yr old is just like me so of course everyone says I favor him. It's just something about my boys I can't handle the thought of anyone else teaching them anything or having a hand in raising them, everyone is too mean to them I hate hearing them get yelled at by anyone even my own mother. Is there anyone else that can relate at all??

 

[imagesbyholly]

I can understand that. It may not be because they are boys- it may just be that they are the youngest. I think the attachment thing is stronger before they are six. If you've had bad experiences, I can understand your desire to protect them. I am that way. Plus with a 1 week old your momma bear hormones are probably in full swing .
When an adult yells at my kids unjustly it really bothers me, but that happens very rarely. MY mom doesn't do that. But if they deserved it I feel guilty that my child acted that way and I'm glad that I'm not the only one bothered by a bad behavior and showing it. I also set about to make sure the child doesn't continue to behave that way. I get very annoyed when other parents (esp. if their kids are playing with my kids) let obvious disobedience and meanness and destructiveness go as thought "boys will be boys" or "they're just kids." If those kids never get discipline, and get it consistantly every time they mess up, they will remain kids until they are 35 or 40 when mom and dad croak. I want my kids to be responsible, kind, and fun to be around. Then we all have more time for fun and happier get-togethers.

That said, my almoast three year old is a little wild and I am blaming myself and my busy life, but we're working on it. I have four kids and I'm homeschooling two of them. Co-op on Fridays, when my littles are in a preschool class together, is a gem for me.

When you say everyone is too mean to them, what do you mean?

 

[music.forlife7]

In all honesty, I like how you love your kids. Family is important. But I don't think I could handle being a parent, even at 18 I'm still learning how to take care of myself. I admire you for doing that

 

[Undiagnosed]

I can relate. My kids are older now-23, 18, and 13. Every time I was pregnant I wanted a boy, and everytime I got a boy. Can't really exp;lain why I didn't want a girl. And I can't say how I would feel toward a girl if I'd had one. But yea I sorta could say I obssessed over my kids. The first time I saw my first son it was like a feeling I had never had before. Absolutley fell in love at first sight. And as he grew I just thought he the world should revolve around him. Unfortunatley I was divorced when he was only a few months old and ended up haveing soooo many problems trying to be in a relationship and have someone else deal with my kid. I would always take my kids side on any issue and always be in protective mode. I also could not stand for someone to make my kids cry. I mean I remember being talking on the phone and my partner (not his Dad) doing something and makeing him cry and I me throwing the phone across the room and hitting him in the head with it. Yea and still in the middle of my conversation without hanging up. And I'm not otherwise a violent person. This is for the most part just toward someone makeing my kid cry. But when my first one was little I enrolled in colledge early childhool development classes. I subscribed to Parenting magazines. I watched Peatatric tv shows. (this was befoe I had a computer or internet). So yea I was obsessed. Now I have my first grandbaby and he is a boy too. And I am absolutley In Love with him ! I mean he is like the Cuttiest , sweetest thing I have ever known of in My life!!