Long-Distance Crush? Help?!

[Glytch]

Heyooo, everybody!

So, I met this girl through Instagram. Her name is Nadia, she turns 17 in February, and she lives near Azerbaijan.
We had been having occasional brief chats on Instagram’s direct message feature in response to each other’s stories, but today, we had our first full, unprovoked conversation. It was about five hours long and quite enjoyable. We just talked and talked and talked until about an hour ago, because she had to go to bed (it was about 2:00am where she is).
I, um, I think I might be developing a crush on her... I’m not sure what to do about that. My best friend suggested that I wait, because long distance relationships are difficult, and I trust her judgement on this stuff, since she has more experience... That said, I figured I could get some additional opinions, so... What do y’all think I should do?

 

[BraidedPony]

You can continue to chat. Don’t send her any money.

 

[Glytch]

You can continue to chat. Don’t send her any money.

I’m fairly certain I’m not being scammed by someone I started a conversation with on Instagram. Besides, even if she asked, I have no way of sending money, nor do I have any money to send.

 

[NTGUY]

I am NT so it might be different for me. But my advice is to not fall in love with someone who is long distance. It is the most painful and expensive thing I have ever done. For the past 4 months, I have done nothing but think of him and I have to spend a ridiculous amount of money flying to go see him every month.

 

[Kyou Nukui]

Sometimes I find a sort of comfort in the distance.. It means I'm never under any illusion to begin with that a real romance might happen. Just enjoy having good company. If you're crushing on her, that's fine. I wouldn't be too forward and actually tell her that, because there's nothing you can do about it anyway. Eventually the crush will fade; but hopefully, if you're lucky, the friendship will stay strong.

 

[Tom]

Azerbaijan is a country. Perhaps you mean she lives in Azerbaijan?

 

[tlc]

Eventually the crush will fade

I agree here. I think don't do anything drastic now, because you'll regret it when it does fade. Don't spend a bunch of money or put yourself into a position that is tough to get out of.

Over 20 years ago I spent a lot of time talking with a girl from Austrailia, we really hit it off. I'd set my alarm so we could talk, considering she had a limited window of internet access. We snail mailed each other a package of pictures. Eventually she was the one to say hey this will never work due to distance so we better stop. I'm glad she did, as back then my experience and judgement was very primitive.

 

[Graphin]

My advice is to just chat with her, for a year or three

 

[NothingToSeeHere]

Keep chatting, chances are the crush will fade and hopefully you'll remain friends. If not, well, chances are you'll have difficult relationships and get your heart broken sooner or later anyway, so don't worry about it too much.

 

[Bolletje]

Azerbaijan is a country. Perhaps you mean she lives in Azerbaijan?

“Near” makes it so much more mysterious though.

 

[tree]

It's possible to live near Azerbaijan.
If a person were being conservative, saying "near"
would hint at, without revealing, the exact location.

I can't imagine myself using that ploy, though.
Examples:
I live "near" Canada.
I live near Ohio.

 

[Glytch]

Okay, to clear up any confusion: I reread her messages. She lives in Azerbaijan.

 

[Tom]

Well then lad... all you gotta do is grow a beard, convert to Islam and go and meet her parents. Easy Peasy.

 

[Glytch]

Well then lad... all you gotta do is grow a beard, convert to Islam and go and meet her parents. Easy Peasy.

Very funny...

 

[Shamar]

Don't confuse relief from loneliness with love. It feels like I imagine love feels like, but lasts only as long as you are lonely. Once you form a relationship, the feeling disappears. I did this twice, and the second ended up as a disaster.