Loving a star

[SASTrooper]

Ok so here goes I been in love with some that relativity famous called Ariel Winter aka Alex dunpuhy on tv Modern family.

Now I know most are going to say I'm nut bar or cook coo to try and find love, but I think that where all human and can go out with anyone we please right ? if that the case then who cares what job they do or what they are ? I looking to lover as who she is as person a normal person, not some that going to be like hay i'm dating a famous person it me me me all time.

No I know how to approach some famous I meet Eric Roberts, Stan lee, Sylvester McCoy. Even did fan films next TV starts so know how to behave near them and know that it like being a body guard and friend at the same time if that makes sense ?

I'm just trying to think of how to tell them that I like them and make a connection as it where,please don't hate me for this and tell me that I need stop thinking about her as she keep my mind happy and that good and my mom says follow your hart.

 

[SignOfLazarus]

I'm not going to call you nuts or coocoo.
I am going to pose this question: how do you love someone you don't actually know?

What you see of someone from afar is never ever who they truly are.
I fear you are building up what you think this person is, rather than giving room for who they may be. In doing that, you set yourself up for huge disappointment.

All the other obstacles- would you be compatible in reality; could you actually meet; does she have a current romantic interest [for that matter does she even want one]; does her schedule have time to make room for what your schedule permits; would you be GOOD for each other... those honestly likely PALE in comparison to what you are currently doing to yourself.

You can say that you have read and viewed a million interviews, seen pictures, read about her life, her history, her interests, etc etc etc...

That is not a person. That is a story. That is a story designed to sell.
So what you are in love with, right now is probably someone who doesn't exist. So if you get past the fact that you are a fan and are able to meet her in a social setting, even spend extensive time with her... she is likely to not at all be the person you have built up in your head.

You do not actually know this person, and that is a reality.
I understand, however, really being attracted to an ideal. No one is perfect though and celebrities groom an image that they portray- both on screen and off screen.

I don't think it's a matter of being a "nutjob" or being "coocoo". I don't think you are.
I think it's reasonable to figure out what you want in a partner. I think it is reasonable to pursue it if that is what you perceive in someone. I think you seem to have chosen a really difficult way to go about it.

I'm not you, so I can't say why her specifically, obviously. But she can't be the only person to possess these qualities you seem to appreciate.

What if you took those things that you feel make you love this person and strove to find a [different] mate who matches up with those qualities?

It seems a more achievable goal- you would be more likely to know you are getting the real deal.

Just some things to think about. I mean no one can tell you what to do with your life, simply give you things to reflect upon based on their own experiences.

 

[Slithytoves]

SignofLazarus nailed everything I would have said perfectly, so I'll leave all of that alone. Brilliantly stated.

What I can do in addition is give you some advice based on my perspective as a former personal assistant, friend and romantic partner to film/TV actors and well-known musicians.

Celebrities are approached by sincere, well-meaning fans like you quite often with propositions of friendship or romance. I've seen it happen in person several times. I've also spoken with them about it afterwards. They are often flattered, but always uncomfortable. They are very much aware of how a fan can become genuinely infatuated with them, and they also know it's not based on who they really are. I have never met a celebrity who accepted an offer of connection from a fan unless they had already met and talked at length and have a tremendous amount in common, usually including their profession.

Being a celebrity performer is not only difficult (for the above and other reasons), but also brutal for relationships. When I dated a movie actor, the strain of his crazy schedule was very hard on us. Work has to come first. You might think you could be understanding and supportive -- so did I, and I knew the job pretty well -- but if you're not in the same industry, you can't truly understand their world and it can be murder on your self-esteem to always have to come second. You would also have to deal with dozens of other people, just like you, who want the same thing from the object of your affection. For these and other reasons, celebrity relationships don't tend to last. Not with the average person, and not even with others just like them.

 

[SASTrooper]

I know what you mean, I accept the fact that all what one see is not all that is reality as it where. But this what I want to find out as it where, I sent them a letter to try to make contact also thinking of using twitter to gain something from it, granted there the aspect that one is worlds apart but, is that not a journey worth taking to find out ?

also be it that she young and fame is a fickle thing, I know in some way there product, I stand by that what ever as been to conventions and realize that there object of affection of others.

At the same time it bother me that if I don't I feel worse.