Made a friend I didn't expect.

[Illkurok]

I have a morning ritual where I go to this local doughnut store and get my regular Mountain Dew and whatever doughnut I think looks good.

As I was paying for my items a gentlemen came up to me and complimented my Stormtrooper shirt. I said thank you and he invited me to sit at his table, we talked about Star Wars mainly, but it shifted to all sorts of things. The guy had said he had seen me come in several times but never had the courage to speak up until today. He asked me if that was odd, I told him if it was me I never would have initiated the conversation because of my severe social anxiety.

He chuckled and said "Well, I guess it's good I came around, right?"

Anyway, to wrap this up, I never would have imagined connecting with someone just by following my routine, it's not often people come up to me either, and truth be told I'm always a little uneasy when they do because of past experiences, but at least something good came out of it this time.

 

[Aspychata]

Sorry, that story creeped me out . lol l am going to pretend l didn't read this for the rest of the day. l can have nightmares on strange people. In fact l had a bad nightmare last nite because three woman l didn't know showed up in my dreams. Apparently, even when l dream, l am still on the spectrum. This was woman, not even men, and l still woke up extremely stressed out.

It's amazing how your filters change if you have gone through trauma. There should be a trigger alert, because it involves a strange person. lol

 

[Streetwise]

Sorry, that story creeped me out . lol l am going to pretend l didn't read this for the rest of the day. l can have nightmares on strange people. In fact l had a bad nightmare last nite because three woman l didn't know showed up in my dreams. Apparently, even when l dream, l am still on the spectrum. This was woman, not even men, and l still woke up extremely stressed out.

have to talk about what you said just have to ,don’t know what I will dream about tonight ,I presume a woman will be in it,Now I’m hyperventilating Thinking about takeaway food wish my local Cantonese takeaway was open ,it happens every night, I start to think about takeaway food ,haven’t dreamt about it yet,The delivery person who came the other night was as cold as he could possibly be hoping this will help me when I’m sleeping saying this, also I will stop wanting to destroy my iPad.

 

[Aspychata]

Cantonese food sounds yummy! l would climb a mountain for Singapore noddles, l miss this restaurant that made them.

 

[Juliettaa]

I have a morning ritual where I go to this local doughnut store and get my regular Mountain Dew and whatever doughnut I think looks good.

As I was paying for my items a gentlemen came up to me and complimented my Stormtrooper shirt. I said thank you and he invited me to sit at his table, we talked about Star Wars mainly, but it shifted to all sorts of things. The guy had said he had seen me come in several times but never had the courage to speak up until today. He asked me if that was odd, I told him if it was me I never would have initiated the conversation because of my severe social anxiety.

He chuckled and said "Well, I guess it's good I came around, right?"

Anyway, to wrap this up, I never would have imagined connecting with someone just by following my routine, it's not often people come up to me either, and truth be told I'm always a little uneasy when they do because of past experiences, but at least something good came out of it this time.

I view your post from another angle - a positive one. I don't think there's anything creepy about people trying to strike up a conversation.

I may find it irritating simply because I have other things on my mind or don't have the time or the inclination or the social ability depending on my frame of mind, but from the perspective you are describing, I think it's a really nice thing - for both of you.

You connected and chatted about a common interest and I guess on some level it made the day seem brighter for both of you. And that, in my opinion, is great.

Yay to a budding friendship @Illkurok

 

[Sarah S]

As i said my friend you never know when the the right friend or even GF/BF shows up unless you show youre self out there

HAPPY for you my friend

 

[Streetwise]

Cantonese food sounds yummy! l would climb a mountain for Singapore noddles, l miss this restaurant that made them.

do you have an online takeaway service in your area ,we have one in the UK called just eat ,what I eat now is very bland , Compared to Tikka masala, or Tandoori, I love curry I vary between Papa Johns vegan pizza or Cantonese ,still trying to discern how much I can eat ,knowing I have high cholesterol ,the infection I had damaged my discernment, and I’m always cold at night that doesn’t help.From all the vegan stores I look at online you can order myriad spices and noodles

 

[Aspychata]

have to talk about what you said just have to ,don’t know what I will dream about tonight ,I presume a woman will be in it,Now I’m hyperventilating Thinking about takeaway food wish my local Cantonese takeaway was open ,it happens every night, I start to think about takeaway food ,haven’t dreamt about it yet,The delivery person who came the other night was as cold as he could possibly be hoping this will help me when I’m sleeping saying this, also I will stop wanting to destroy my iPad.

People that have experienced trauma have good and bad days, so we eat Chinese to help us through!

 

[Streetwise]

People that have experienced trauma have good and bad days, so we eat Chinese to help us through!

It’s literally true for me ,I’ve never realised that the medicine I was taking for 20 years was actually sedating me !and when I moved to the house I’m in now, I started a regular routine of going to the takeaway at night ,now I realise the medicine must’ve been wearing off, I completely forgot antihistamines used to sedate people, of course the NHS being what it was never bothered to tell me that I was coming off a sedative ,I should’ve done it slowly, no they waited 20 years over the time ,damaging my heart and then gave me no help at all

 

[Aspychata]

do you have an online takeaway service in your area ,we have one in the UK called just eat ,what I eat now is very bland , Compared to Tikka masala, or Tandoori, I love curry I vary between Papa Johns vegan pizza or Cantonese ,still trying to discern how much I can eat ,knowing I have high cholesterol ,the infection I had damaged my discernment, and I’m always cold at night that doesn’t help.From all the vegan stores I look at online you can order myriad spices and noodles

I love curry, I like any and all Asian food, moved to LA and just lived off of Asian food, probably because l lived many years in Hawaii. But very spicy, probably a bit too much for you.

 

[Illkurok]

@Aspychata @Streetwise

Could you both move this conversation elsewhere? I'd appreciate it.

 

[Aspychata]

@Aspychata @Streetwise

Could you both move this conversation elsewhere? I'd appreciate it.

Sorry, thanks for the heads up!

 

[Juliettaa]

@Illkurok - I'm so sorry to see your thread being derailed. I don't think I've ever witnessed this to quite this extent before on here.

Please keep on posting and hopefully the thread will get back on track.

How are you feeling now after your chat? Do you think this friendship will lead somewhere?

 

[Mia]

Kind of nice when that happens lllkurock, although I think it's somewhat rare. Hopefully it turns out well.

 

[Mary Terry]

I have a morning ritual where I go to this local doughnut store and get my regular Mountain Dew and whatever doughnut I think looks good.

As I was paying for my items a gentlemen came up to me and complimented my Stormtrooper shirt. I said thank you and he invited me to sit at his table, we talked about Star Wars mainly, but it shifted to all sorts of things. The guy had said he had seen me come in several times but never had the courage to speak up until today. He asked me if that was odd, I told him if it was me I never would have initiated the conversation because of my severe social anxiety.

He chuckled and said "Well, I guess it's good I came around, right?"

Anyway, to wrap this up, I never would have imagined connecting with someone just by following my routine, it's not often people come up to me either, and truth be told I'm always a little uneasy when they do because of past experiences, but at least something good came out of it this time.

I really like your post. Everyone needs to be more open-minded about talking to strangers and less paranoid that they are out to "get" you. The gentleman may have been hesitant to talk to you for a long time but he worked up his courage, and you handled it very well by saying that you have social anxiety or however you explained it. He sounds like nice guy, and I hope you become good friends.

I frequently talk to strangers but follow my instincts about some of them. Like the obviously mentally ill people at the homeless shelter where I volunteer who need to be medicated. That kind of person is pretty rare, and most people are garden variety normal.

 

[Aspychata]

Sorry, l don't like to be rude to @Streetwise. But it's great you met somebody and you are supported here
And ps, l don't feel anybody is out to get me, l am on the spectrum which includes social withdrawal for some of us which means table for one .

 

[unperson]

@Aspychata @Streetwise

Could you both move this conversation elsewhere? I'd appreciate it.

LOL.

Seems ok Illkurok, proceed with caution.

 

[paloftoon]

It happened naturally and by luck.
Nothing wrong with that!

Now, after the shirt compliment, if you said no to sitting at his table and he still pushed you after that, then that would be a cause for (slight) concern potentially.