I met a man recently and we have moved into romantic territory. Nobody has ever made me feel this comfortable and being with him is soothing, energizing, relaxing, fun, and all around wonderful.
But he confuses me in some ways and as he is opening up to me, I have been wondering if he might have AS or something similar (I am not very familiar with AS and autism, so please forgive my ignorance). Most importantly, he has told me more and more about his difficulties with social interaction. People confuse him and he cannot read their motivation at all. He is quite attractive and people at work would hit on him all the time, but he could not tell whether they were serious or not. He cannot relate to emotional expressions or requests to be emotionally expressive. When people come to him with problems, he will remain fairly stoic and offer advice on how to fix it. People have described him (as he told me) as slow (as in mentally slow) and he often speaks in monotone and slow speech. I noticed that he does not make eye contact with people and only after we met a few times he now looks me in the eyes when he talks to me. But he was always very loving, touchy feely and huggy with me. He has no issue touching people or showing affection when he feels comfortable with them. He absolutely adores animals.
He scored very high on IQ tests in school, but underperformed academically. He has an absolutely uncanny memory. He is a walking encyclopedia when it comes to things that interest him, such as music. He is a self-taught musician who can play anything by ear on multiple instruments. He immerses himself entirely in composing and mixing music. He has put together bands, but does not work well with others because he wants to perfect his own and others' skills rather than just making music for the fun of it. He is incredibly helpful and patient and will not offend anyone knowingly, but he also has a hard time with people who are very emotionally expressive and absolutely despises interpersonal drama and conflict.
He repeats things a lot and obsesses over some very trivial and mundane things in that he repeats them over and over during the course of the day. This can turn into very silly and childlike repetitive moments. These moments are random and frequent. But in between he talks about the most sophisticated music theory, and has a keen awareness of social issues and current events, etc., so the sudden switch from childlike to serious can be a bit disorienting at times. It is almost like a tic that he feels the need to repeat seemingly trivial things. He has a vivid imagination, can taste words and hear colors, and is very aware of textures. He has never received much support. He has always fended for himself and is doing well, considering.
I really love this man because he is sweet, loving, attentive, and makes me feel amazing. I think I am here because I want to understand his frame of reference. Could he be on the spectrum?
But he confuses me in some ways and as he is opening up to me, I have been wondering if he might have AS or something similar (I am not very familiar with AS and autism, so please forgive my ignorance). Most importantly, he has told me more and more about his difficulties with social interaction. People confuse him and he cannot read their motivation at all. He is quite attractive and people at work would hit on him all the time, but he could not tell whether they were serious or not. He cannot relate to emotional expressions or requests to be emotionally expressive. When people come to him with problems, he will remain fairly stoic and offer advice on how to fix it. People have described him (as he told me) as slow (as in mentally slow) and he often speaks in monotone and slow speech. I noticed that he does not make eye contact with people and only after we met a few times he now looks me in the eyes when he talks to me. But he was always very loving, touchy feely and huggy with me. He has no issue touching people or showing affection when he feels comfortable with them. He absolutely adores animals.
He scored very high on IQ tests in school, but underperformed academically. He has an absolutely uncanny memory. He is a walking encyclopedia when it comes to things that interest him, such as music. He is a self-taught musician who can play anything by ear on multiple instruments. He immerses himself entirely in composing and mixing music. He has put together bands, but does not work well with others because he wants to perfect his own and others' skills rather than just making music for the fun of it. He is incredibly helpful and patient and will not offend anyone knowingly, but he also has a hard time with people who are very emotionally expressive and absolutely despises interpersonal drama and conflict.
He repeats things a lot and obsesses over some very trivial and mundane things in that he repeats them over and over during the course of the day. This can turn into very silly and childlike repetitive moments. These moments are random and frequent. But in between he talks about the most sophisticated music theory, and has a keen awareness of social issues and current events, etc., so the sudden switch from childlike to serious can be a bit disorienting at times. It is almost like a tic that he feels the need to repeat seemingly trivial things. He has a vivid imagination, can taste words and hear colors, and is very aware of textures. He has never received much support. He has always fended for himself and is doing well, considering.
I really love this man because he is sweet, loving, attentive, and makes me feel amazing. I think I am here because I want to understand his frame of reference. Could he be on the spectrum?
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