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Met a Musician

Raggamuffin

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There's a house next to the graveyard at the edge of the village. It's where I go have a smoke and staff. Nice and quiet. The only people who seem to visit are dog walkers. The house next to it was converted, but related to the church a long time ago.

First time I walked past I noticed quirky decor and knew whoever lived there was creative. Weeks later I see a guy chopping wood outside the house. Probably in his late 30's. I knew that not only was he creative, but clearly he had wealth. Well, that, and he lives in Haddenham which is a very expensive place to live now.

Months later, we ended up talking when he was out walking his dogs at the graveyard. He saw me staffing and mentioned that he'd held a Day of the Dead inspired meeting of fire spinners and performers in the graveyard once.

Yesterday, a month or more since we last spoke, he approached me as I sat on the antique tractor seat and looking out on the view and sunset. He said what I was smoking smelt nice, and that he'd had to quit that, and coke. Truth be told, he had the bravado of someone who'd been a cokehead. It seems to give people a certain intensity in how they speak and act.

Turns out he'd made it big in music, sold his back catalogue and was semi-retired living here in the village. I spoke of quitting the rat race soon to do my art full time. He said he always loved meeting people who were following their dream. I echoed that sentiment - as it's very inspiring to meet other creatives, but also those who have "made it".

We exchanged numbers. He said he'd keep me in mind with regards to my art and fire staffing. I showed him my latest drawing and he absolutely loved it. It's wonderful seeing that energy take over people when they see my drawings.

"Wow"
"Oh my God"
"Whaaaaat"

Seem to be the usual reactions, followed by a lot of praise. The compliments still make me feel awkward. He agreed with my desire to hammer out as many galleries as possible in London and other cities. That is where I will be recognised. He was turned away by lots of record companies, but in the end he got signed to a big German label.

I know it'll only be a matter of time before I encounter a similar experience. It's all about networking, travelling and getting my work out there. So many people have told me that the talent is clearly there. I know it too. It's something that leaves a very good impression on those I meet. I just have to find the right people, and I firmly believe it'll help snowball this new career.

The foundation will be Art & Craft fairs initially, as this will be a steady income. Whilst I begrudge how much comission art galleries charge (35-55%) I know that it's the platform to truly get recognised in the art world.

Anyway, it was good to meet that guy again. Once again, I'm continuously putting out my desire and goal into the universe and I continually meet people who inspire and appreciate where my journey will take me.

I will admit, it's making these last few months at work even harder. Well, that, and the fact I'm refusing to do overtime. So I'm slowly drowning in my workload.

Still, in the grand scheme of things, the 3rd June isn't too far away. It's acting as impetus to drive my goal to succeed in my creative ventures. It'll also serve as a good success story when I'm older. Hopefully to encourage others to quit the rat race to follow their dream.

Ed
 
You understand the importance of networking which is critical in the creative arts.

But for us, networking is another pain to do because of communication skills. And our ability to chose being alone over networking. It's amazing how handicapped we are when it comes to employment.

You have conquered this and do show that perhaps it possible to step out of our defined roles and engage. I am still struggling with that one.

I was surprised to learn that l drew a crowd as a bartender. Something l worried l wouldn't be able to do. And l handle high volume with food and drinks. So the stories give hope to others on the spectrum to try.
 
I had a simliar experience once. I was on my way home using the train and drawing a bit in my sketchbook. A guy which was around 20/30 years old wiht a cool tattoo on his head stopped and said my art was nice. We talked a bit but then the train stopped at the trainstation close to my home and had to go. Sadly i never saw him again. The short conversation whe had was really nice.
 
I know that networking will initially provoke a lot of anxiety, but much like how I overcame my agoraphobia - I know that in order to improve upon anything I struggle with, I have to grab the bull by the horns and get on with it.

Same goes for Art & Craft fairs and travelling from gallery to gallery. This could potentially create a lot of unease and anxiety. Maybe even panic attacks. Exposure therapy is intense, but so is my belief that I will succeed. So even if I have to go through weeks or months of discomfort - I know it will eventually settle down.

I met up with the musician again last night. We had a long chat. It's wonderful to meet people on a similar wave length. Now that my path is clear with what I want to do - I'm naturally attracting like-minded people and situations.

Last night I got a text out of the blue asking me to do my contact staffing at a charity music event in a few weeks time. Initially my anxiety was like "say no, say NO!" but I said yes. Going to visit there whilst they are setting up, so I get a good idea of the venue, the stage area I will be on etc. I think I'll be using my LED staff as this is indoors, and my anxious "what if's" did make me think if I mess up a trick with a 2.5 kg metal staff and it flails into the audience...

Where there's blame, there's a claim.

Asides from that, I also agreed to go to another spiritualist evening with my mum tomorrow night. Last time I went there it was so loud and crowded that I nearly succumb to a panic attack. So again - I'm going to revisit what makes me anxious. Eventually my brain will learn that there's no sense in worrying over such things.

Ed
 
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Asides from that, I also agreed to go to another spiritualist evening with my mum tomorrow night. Last time I went there it was so loud and crowded that I nearly succumb to a panic attack. So again - I'm going to revisit what makes me anxious. Eventually my brain will learn that there's no sense in worrying over such things.

^ Desensitization. I think that can work to a degree. I wonder if it can be completely effective for an autistic person with sensory sensitivities. Certainly worth trying. I'm curious as to how it works out.
 
Had a very good therapy session today doing a guided visualisation exercise with regards to the anxiety I felt for this upcoming staffing performance at a music event. Very emotional, but it was actually rather profound. It helped reduce my anxiety considerably.

At the end of the day I think we're constantly a work in progress. We can assume the cards we are dealt is all there will be, but I think that'll lead to stagnation. I know my ADHD and 'tism contribute to various struggles, but I'm keen to minimise their impact as much as possible - otherwise I will be preventing myself from getting to where I want to be in life.

Ed
 

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