Middle-aged Asp west of Chicago

[Sunbeam]

Hello,

I'm a single middle-aged asp (or perhaps autism, savant-ism, ADD, etc.). I live about 45 miles west of Chicago.

Although I'm among the nicest of people, I'm a lifetime social outcast. My social problems today seem to be more due to not having things in common with others. Also, I'm an only child, no cousins, and haven't been in school or work for years, so there's no chance of meeting people that way.

Although having a near genius-level IQ, my learning disabilities prevented me from ever making good money; I was relegated to menial jobs. I finally applied for disability at 40, moved back in with my parents, and collect the disability check to this day.

I spend the greatest percentage of my free time writing. I've authored a book I call Wowed by Truth. It is on the Internet.

 

[Turk]

Hi Sunbeam and welcome,
Many of us manage to isolate ourselves, by our own hand. Although none of us can change what's in our past, there are ways of improving our lives. Have a good look around the forums and you will find your not alone.
Cheers
Turk

 

[Sunbeam]

Hi Sunbeam and welcome,
Many of us manage to isolate ourselves, by our own hand. Although none of us can change what's in our past, there are ways of improving our lives. Have a good look around the forums and you will find your not alone.
Cheers
Turk

I agree with you in that I isolate myself from people who are married with children, or who were married for years and have children. But that just rubs my singleness in my nose; it doesn't help me be happy; it causes pain.

In my area, there are no asp social groups. Only listings of psychiatrists and psychologists; strangers whom we're expected to pay in order for them to tell us how to operate our own brains.

 

[Turk]

I agree with you in that I isolate myself from people who are married with children, or who were married for years and have children. But that just rubs my singleness in my nose; it doesn't help me be happy; it causes pain.

In my area, there are no asp social groups. Only listings of psychiatrists and psychologists; strangers whom we're expected to pay in order for them to tell us how to operate our own brains.

I can understand that. I can assure you that despite that the fact im married, im very much alone. When I see other couples, I feel that same pain. And yes doctor's can give us a reason and a label and how they think they'd best deal with it. We all know, ultimately, the answer lies in us, or our own kind. Isnt that why your here? Its why im here. To share my life and have others share theirs. On our own we may only have limited answers, collectively, solutions and ideas flow. Its a beautiful thing

 

[Judge]

That's often the saddest part of it all. That you can feel so alone without physically being alone. A very strange thing indeed.

Surrounded by people or not...it's like living in a social vacuum of sorts. As if you just don't belong.

 

[Keith]

Welcome!

 

[Keith]

That's often the saddest part of it all. That you can feel so alone without physically being alone. A very strange thing indeed.

Surrounded by people or not...it's like living in a social vacuum of sorts. As if you just don't belong.

I get kind of upset when no one wants to talk about what I like.

 

[Vanilla]

Welcome Sunbeam

While I do have a few people I can speak with from time to time, I have learned to accept my decision to be alone, and to advise people that this is my choice, not my curse. I much rather being with good people I can relate to online, than with those I can't relate to, who only question my lifestyle choices.

I hope you're able to find like-minded people to share your interests here. Like Sportster mentioned, we have a few writers amongst us.

 

[Keith]

Ah, that reminds me. I do like to be alone a lot. I can't even sit through a sporting event unless I'm either there or having dinner, both of which force me to remain seated (except for using the toilet, of course).

 

[Sunbeam]

I can understand that. I can assure you that despite that the fact im married, im very much alone. When I see other couples, I feel that same pain. And yes doctor's can give us a reason and a label and how they think they'd best deal with it. We all know, ultimately, the answer lies in us, or our own kind. Isnt that why your here? Its why im here. To share my life and have others share theirs. On our own we may only have limited answers, collectively, solutions and ideas flow. Its a beautiful thing

You may sympathize. But with someone who is single, no children, AND an only child and no cousins, AND a social outcast, you cannot empathize. Just being honest.