My 58 year old mother was diagnosed with a/s a few months ago. The whole process was an unexpected result from other counseling sessions so it was a complete surprise but in a way it explains so much about her behavior all my life. It is such a relief to finally have an explanation, as before I always thought I had a mother who just didn't care. Since the diagnosis, I have been reading so much about asperger's syndrome and I now understand a lot of the situations that I found myself in with my mother. Now instead of getting angry at what she does or says I have a lot more patience and I try to explain things to her because she is really bad at reading emotions and social cues. I am making progress. My ultimate goal is to develop a relationship with my mother, which I never had. I know it is all up to me, as our therapist said that at her age she will not change and I have to learn how to act and react with her. She is my only parent (my dad walked out on us years ago) so I am willing to do whatever it takes.
I find that I would like to talk to other people who are facing the same issues. I don't know anyone who I can talk to about all the emotions I am going through right now (hope and fear and confusion and regret and relief etc...). There doesn't seem to be that much material on the internet or in print about being the child of a parent diagnosed with asperger's. So I thought I would reach out here to see if anyone can recommend any resources, whether books or websites or articles, about what it is like to be the child of an aspie and all the things I can try to do to develop a relationship with my mother.
Thanks for all suggestions!!
I find that I would like to talk to other people who are facing the same issues. I don't know anyone who I can talk to about all the emotions I am going through right now (hope and fear and confusion and regret and relief etc...). There doesn't seem to be that much material on the internet or in print about being the child of a parent diagnosed with asperger's. So I thought I would reach out here to see if anyone can recommend any resources, whether books or websites or articles, about what it is like to be the child of an aspie and all the things I can try to do to develop a relationship with my mother.
Thanks for all suggestions!!
