Mother of aspie teenager

[mumsal98]

Hi everyone...new to this site, found out 6 months ago that my 14 year old daughter as aspergers, hoping to chat and find out more about the condition with other mothers going through the same situation, daughter takin out of mainstream school couldn't no longer cope, been a tough for years with her but now we have found out why she was acting the way she was is has been more easier to help her cope with her feeling and stressful day, but i still have a lot to learn

 

[wyverary]

Glad you joined this site! We have lots of mothers on this site who are on the spectrum themselves. Feel free to explore and ask!

wyv

 

[mumsal98]

Thankyou

 

[Ereth]

Welcome to AspiesCentral! We have some other parents here, so you're definitely not alone in your situation. I hope we can be of help to you and your daughter.

 

[MoCoffee]

I am so glad you found this site. The people here tend to be very open about their challenges and how they've overcome them, so ask us anything you want and we'll help as much as we can. I would suspect your daughter is relieved to have a diagnosis too. It's really hard to not fit in without ever understanding why. You both are welcome here.

 

[mumsal98]

Thankyou for your replies....its been such a difficult time, it never came noticeable until my daughter jodie went to high school, although she was a very shy girl in junior school and she was very particular on doing things, she so enjoyed her own company..she managed 3 years in high school, but her attendance was getting worse come the 4 th year, so now doesn't attend school, she tends to spend all day up in her room only coming down for food, and watch a little tv...i do try and encourage her to go out but she tends to have a meltdown at the thought of it, tried this weekend to have a friend sleepover, shes fine up until the actual time to pick the friend up then all the stress clicks in and she will blank you out and i end up saying we'll try again next week, but i know she will be the same next week....am i doing more damage trying to get her do things, or am i best just going along with her to what she feels comfortable with please help

 

[wyverary]

I myself dropped out of high school my sophomore year because my Aspergers and depression issues got so bad, so I can relate to your daughter quite a bit. It sounds like you're trying to handle this alone, and if that's the case, I definitely recommend seeking outside help. I spent the rest of my high school years in therapy, and while it's not a be-all-end-all, it made things seem a little less hopeless and I think it gave my parents at least a little relief. We can try to help you as best we can, but you and your daughter should not be going this alone, I don't think.

 

[mumsal98]

We are finally getting some support from the school but it seems to of took a long time, work as been sent home from school..but jodie faced another hurdle in trying to understand what they wanted from her...to much information was given to her, I'm sure people on the spectrum can relate to this. She has now been transferred to an outreach group with hopefully can provide a tutor for her to get back on track with education, but my biggest concern was making the move of trying to get her out, or just to leave her while shes in happy mode

 

[Warwick C]

mumsal98; Welcome to Aspie central. Think you are doing the best you can at the moment, one thing to remember aspergers is areasonably new diagnosis and in girls even more so.

I wish you and Jodie all best with working through the issues. It may take time to come to grips with it or it may be a relief.

 

[mumsal98]

Thank you, it is nice to know we are not alone...it has felt like it for the past few months

 

[Vanilla]

Welcome

It's great that you're so supportive of your daughter. You'll find many answers here for sure.

I too struggled at highschool, namely because teenagers are hard to get. I don't know if this will help for your daughter, but I always got along better with tomboyish girls, than regular ones; namely because my train of thoughts were closer to that of guys.

I imagine your daughter may be struggling to relate with teens in general, if she's anything like I was. Perhaps some adult aged friends would be more appropriate for her, if she's willing. It might be beneficial, if you haven't yet, to find out what her interests are; perhaps encourage any potential career enabling ones. This might help keep her mind on something positive, if she's feeling a but down at all, but be sure not to force anything on her.

Just be sure to ask what will make her happy, and work with what you have

Hope that was helpful

 

[Warwick C]

Vanilla Very nicely put speaking with experience and encouragement. How do you It would help Jodie if she was to join A.C and make friends with some of the close aged members. In knowing that she is not alone.