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My Asperger’s doesn’t automatically make me a reclusive card-counter

AGXStarseed

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(Not written by me)


We’re not all like Sheldon Cooper

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Living with Asperger’s can be difficult – sometimes it feels like I was simply put on the wrong planet. However, it can also offer a refreshing, unique take on life and does not mean that I don’t enjoy the same things as other people.

There are many misconceptions about Asperger’s. Although sometimes it feels like I’m on the wrong planet, Asperger’s is often not the debilitating disease that the media and public think it is – we simply have a different outlook on life to others.


It’s Asperger’s, not ‘ass-burgers’
When young Americans hear the name ‘Asperger’s’ for the first time, they inevitably giggle. While much praise must go towards Hans Asperger and the pioneering work he conducted on noticing behavioural abnormalities in children, it will always be somewhat regrettable that his second name could not have been a less funny ‘Brown,’ or ‘Leigh.’ However, even though the name is quite odd, people with Asperger’s have taken the name as our own and within the community we like to call ourselves ‘Aspies’.


I’ve heard its basically autism, right?
So there is a bit of ambiguity here. While Asperger’s is on the autistic spectrum, it is considered to be a ‘high functioning’ form, with Aspies having a relatively good level of intelligence and communication abilities when compared to more severe autistic cases.


No, we are not all card-counters and are not all asexual
Until very recently, the mainstream media has often misrepresented people with Asperger’s. We are not all savants, and therefore do not have insane maths skills or can do quirky things like recall the weather on a specific date from the past. Furthermore, more recent portrayals such as that from the Big Bang Theory’s Sheldon Cooper, while being less outlandish still often misrepresent us. Indeed, most of us are not asexual and strive for the exact same relationships as the vast majority of people.


We have specific interests, but they’re not life consuming
For me it’s maps. Many people find it odd that I will happily stare at a map for a good half hour without getting bored. These interests can change from time to time: for instance when I was younger I used to be obsessed with tornados and how they were formed. However, this does not mean to say that this is all we do. I enjoy a range of other, much more normal things like going out on a Friday night or just chilling with some friends after a day of work.


We are not uncaring people, we simply lack empathy
We are often criticised for annoying someone too much or not really respecting their feelings. On the surface this appears to be simple nastiness, however we simply find it very difficult to perceive other people’s emotions or feelings.


We are more talkative than the average person
This really goes contrary to the stereotype. Most people imagine us as being extremely reclusive, unable and unwilling to communicate with anyone. While this is the case with some debilitating cases of autism, it is often not the case with Asperger’s. We love to talk, most often about our specific interest. This has led to Aspie behaviour being labelled as ‘active but odd’.


Yes, we (allegedly) have famous members
So as the study of Autism has been around for just over half a century with Asperger’s being even shorter than that, it’s a bit difficult to tell who in the past (or even in the present for that matter) has/had Asperger’s. However, by reading biographies and observing people’s mannerisms we can make fairly accurate assertions. It surprises many people to know that many scientific figures such as Isaac Newton and Albert Einstein are suspected to have had Asperger’s. Figures from other fields such as Beethoven and Michael Jackson have also displayed Aspie-like qualities.


It’s a difference and not a disease
However, even if that was possible, I am not sure that that would be desirable. We have a keen eye for detail, along with being direct, honest, and extremely logical and have a heightened idea of what is right and wrong. Personally, I love being able to look at things from a different perspective than other people and not always conforming to social norms. It makes life refreshing, in an odd sort of way. At the end of the day, it is a difference which should be better understood rather than a disease that should be battled.


SOURCE: http://thetab.com/uk/warwick/2016/0...ically-make-me-a-reclusive-card-counter-15404
 
Pretty good; however, if anything, I have TOO MUCH empathy. I pick up other people's emotions like lint.
 
Pretty good; however, if anything, I have TOO MUCH empathy. I pick up other people's emotions like lint.
Same I am very empathetic but I do have a habit of talking about my interests a lot and while I try to not do it as much anymore my husband gets the brunt of it.
 
Probably talking to him about it.

I don't suppose your husband wears make-up. Why would you talk on an on about make-up with a man, let alone one who doesn't wear it himself? Even I don't get that, I have issues with people not being interested in things about which I believe is necessary for me to talk to them, at least if no one else talks to them about it.
 
Talking on and on to a man about makeup seems quite spurious. Doing that with a woman who also doesn't wear makeup might also be spurious.
 
Pretty good; however, if anything, I have TOO MUCH empathy. I pick up other people's emotions like lint.

Wow, 6 agrees already!! See, that is why we need to keep posting. It makes me sad that people think we are non-feeling. Most auties I know are AGONIZINGLY feeling..........
 
i strongly disagree with him about einstein having aspergers,aspies keep using him as a role model but if he was to be diagnosed on the spectrum he would be classic autistic/autie not aspergan/aspie because he had a significant speech delay.
it annoys me,really when i hear him being described as aspie,because classic autism can come with the lowest IQ to the highest IQ and its good for high functioning auties to have a role model who have gone through the same issues to.

as for asexual,ive been in the online autism community for over 14 years and ive met more asexual aspies and auties than i have hetro/gay/bi etc,theres definitely a significant number of asexuals [and aromantics] within the aspie and autie community.
 
I don't agree with everything he's said, but since I'm technically not an "aspie" I can't offer a rebuttal. If he's describing himself and maybe another group of people he's familiar with then great, otherwise assumptions don't click with me.

The whole Einstein argument is ridiculous IMO as well and starting to be pretty common in autism circles; he (and others) might have displayed traits, but you cannot make a posthumous diagnosis on anyone. Period. Too many gray areas that people forget to take into account, and the autism spectrum as a whole is one large gray area with no black or white in between.
 
I don't agree with everything he's said, but since I'm technically not an "aspie" I can't offer a rebuttal. If he's describing himself and maybe another group of people he's familiar with then great, otherwise assumptions don't click with me.

The whole Einstein argument is ridiculous IMO as well and starting to be pretty common in autism circles; he (and others) might have displayed traits, but you cannot make a posthumous diagnosis on anyone. Period. Too many gray areas that people forget to take into account, and the autism spectrum as a whole is one large gray area with no black or white in between.
i agree,you cant diagnose the dead but it is interesting to study their history and... not make assumptions but see if they could quite possibly relate to the spectrum.
however i dont agree in glorifying them as some sort of god of aspergers,its good to have a role model to inspire yourself but people need to beware of diagnosing the dead and relating every aspect of aspergers to the dead person because its possible they are not,for example many aspies refer to einstein as aspie because he was a clever bloke but they dont study the history first such as the fact he had had a significant speech delay and he had wrote his mother a letter describing how impossible it was for him to speak,much of einsteins family who are alive today have autism,aspergers and sensory processing disorder as well as the broader autism phenotype so for him its quite possible he was on the spectrum,that is why i never say einstein is classic autistic-i always say if he was autistic he would be under the classic label [in my opinion].
 

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