Lysander
Well-Known Member
I'd like to ask you guys how you think I could approach this.
My boyfriend and I are both Aspies. He's really fascinated with lineage and after years of waiting has a full family tree, including royalty. I'm a little off balance with this because I absolutely do not want to interfere with his excitement but there might be a point when I'll have to burst his bubble - you see, I'm not sure he knows how many people (80%) are descendents of at least one monarch. Maybe he's just using his imagination when he talks about living in a castle. If he takes it too far, I'll gently inform him then.
My problem is that when he makes discriminative comments about his notion that the skills and qualities he possesses are connected to his 'royalty', it severely bothers me. I've already told him so, but he's obsessed, and if you can believe it, my feelings are almost always his first priority.
He holds some fairly medieval attitudes, but he's also proven himself remarkably open to new perspectives, as if he actually craves these discussions. I'm justified and at the same time, watching the parade go by. But the dam ought not to burst on it, so the discussion must go on. And it shall!
Thanks for reading.
My boyfriend and I are both Aspies. He's really fascinated with lineage and after years of waiting has a full family tree, including royalty. I'm a little off balance with this because I absolutely do not want to interfere with his excitement but there might be a point when I'll have to burst his bubble - you see, I'm not sure he knows how many people (80%) are descendents of at least one monarch. Maybe he's just using his imagination when he talks about living in a castle. If he takes it too far, I'll gently inform him then.
My problem is that when he makes discriminative comments about his notion that the skills and qualities he possesses are connected to his 'royalty', it severely bothers me. I've already told him so, but he's obsessed, and if you can believe it, my feelings are almost always his first priority.
He holds some fairly medieval attitudes, but he's also proven himself remarkably open to new perspectives, as if he actually craves these discussions. I'm justified and at the same time, watching the parade go by. But the dam ought not to burst on it, so the discussion must go on. And it shall!
Thanks for reading.