tylercygnel
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Hello,
My name is Tyler and I'm 14 years old. I'm new to this site, so if this post is inappropriate or not on the right page, please let me now.
Anyway, my dad has Asperger's and it is very clear. I, myself, do not have Asperger's as confirmed by my therapist. I have signs of slight OCD, but I don't know if I do have it or not.
Nonetheless, I know that my dad really cannot change his diagnosis but I suffer a lot from his odd behaviour. He's extremely unfair when it comes to punishing (never, ever physically though) and rules between my sister and I (who can do whatever she wants with his support). She's only 7, and I was 6 when she arrived. It seems as if he's still living in that time. She was little, didn't understand. But she's already a big girl and knows exactly what she's doing when she's bugging me and hitting me. All siblings have fights, and I think we have far less fights than most siblings do, but when it occurs my dad spews sarcasm, rudeness and rather immature things at me. Today, for one, she was decorating gingerbread for Christmas gifts. I told dad, and she then pointed the knife at me that she was holding. I told my father (I could've been mature enough to skip it, I admit that) and he said "Don't do that" very lamely and from distance to her, as he always does. She then started fake crying (which is her special trick) and dad comes running after me, splashing rudeness and sarcasm over my head. I have major struggles with anxiety and panic attacks, and it makes me fragile. However, I almost see it as if he is more rude when it's a bad day for me, like today.
He doesn't take time to listen to my opinions unless we're in a car, is always busy and simply
does not automatically talk to me unless we're in a situation where we can't do otherwise. It does hurt a little, even though I know he doesn't mean to be like he is. He's never been remotely close to raising a hand at me, to make it clear.
I also came out as trans about 10 months ago, and he isn't even trying to learn my name or pronouns. He's the only one to still use my birth name and call me by my birth gender (such as daughter). How on earth do I cope with this? He's a great father when he isn't rude, which compltetly confuses me and makes me split. I get overjoyed when he talks to me or laughs at my jokes, and it feels right then. My dad doesn't emotionally abuse me, but I'm tired of his behaviour. What do I do? He doesn't listen to requests regarding this or he just jokes it away. Even my therapist hasn't changed him. I love my dad, but not his behaviour. Does anyone have a clue what I should do? Maybe someone else has an Asperger's parent?
Thanks, and a happy Christmas to you!
My name is Tyler and I'm 14 years old. I'm new to this site, so if this post is inappropriate or not on the right page, please let me now.
Anyway, my dad has Asperger's and it is very clear. I, myself, do not have Asperger's as confirmed by my therapist. I have signs of slight OCD, but I don't know if I do have it or not.
Nonetheless, I know that my dad really cannot change his diagnosis but I suffer a lot from his odd behaviour. He's extremely unfair when it comes to punishing (never, ever physically though) and rules between my sister and I (who can do whatever she wants with his support). She's only 7, and I was 6 when she arrived. It seems as if he's still living in that time. She was little, didn't understand. But she's already a big girl and knows exactly what she's doing when she's bugging me and hitting me. All siblings have fights, and I think we have far less fights than most siblings do, but when it occurs my dad spews sarcasm, rudeness and rather immature things at me. Today, for one, she was decorating gingerbread for Christmas gifts. I told dad, and she then pointed the knife at me that she was holding. I told my father (I could've been mature enough to skip it, I admit that) and he said "Don't do that" very lamely and from distance to her, as he always does. She then started fake crying (which is her special trick) and dad comes running after me, splashing rudeness and sarcasm over my head. I have major struggles with anxiety and panic attacks, and it makes me fragile. However, I almost see it as if he is more rude when it's a bad day for me, like today.
He doesn't take time to listen to my opinions unless we're in a car, is always busy and simply
does not automatically talk to me unless we're in a situation where we can't do otherwise. It does hurt a little, even though I know he doesn't mean to be like he is. He's never been remotely close to raising a hand at me, to make it clear.
I also came out as trans about 10 months ago, and he isn't even trying to learn my name or pronouns. He's the only one to still use my birth name and call me by my birth gender (such as daughter). How on earth do I cope with this? He's a great father when he isn't rude, which compltetly confuses me and makes me split. I get overjoyed when he talks to me or laughs at my jokes, and it feels right then. My dad doesn't emotionally abuse me, but I'm tired of his behaviour. What do I do? He doesn't listen to requests regarding this or he just jokes it away. Even my therapist hasn't changed him. I love my dad, but not his behaviour. Does anyone have a clue what I should do? Maybe someone else has an Asperger's parent?
Thanks, and a happy Christmas to you!
