My dear forum members:

[Aspychata]

l like to ask you to ask for what you need. l understand we tend to coward and retreat and not get our needs met. l am asking you to not worry about confrontation, and step outside of yourself, and ASK for what you need. It might be your mom, it might be a mental health counselor, it maybe a boyfriend/girlfriend, it maybe your landlord, it maybe an employer, just ask. You maybe surprised at the response. Where have you been not stepping up and asking for what you need?

 

[Aspychata]

Don't be afraid to ask for what you need. l understand that is a different place to shift to, but it's okay to try to meet our needs as Nureodiverse peeps.

 

[Misery]

This is a lesson I really, REALLY wish I'd learned sooner.

I want to add one extra bit to it: sometimes asking for help with certain things can seem very embarrassing, for any number of reasons. If you're like me, you tend to retreat, hide, and suffer rather than face that.

Dont make that mistake. Step forward anyway... just get it done.

I dont remember where I heard this phrase, but when I need to deal with something like that, and I gotta just freaking do it rather than torture myself yet again, I always say to myself: "just rip off the band-aid already". As in, just freaking do it, all at once, quickly. If you try to inch forward slowly, it just makes the process even harder.

Seriously I wish I'd understood these things long ago.