Hello everyone, for the last nearly year my uncle has been staying in my parents’ guest house, where he gets to treat my parents’ house like a free all inclusive resort that features an entourage of 4 servants for various categories (me, my parents, & brother), and a car/2 (two of my parents’ 3 cars) to borrow at his leisure. My father is too henpecked to demand his worthless deadbeat brother-in-law to lift a finger for a single family chore whatsoever, and to my psychotic mother to her he has a mental problem (because of having had Covid), it’s his retirement/she already has enough stress in her life, so she doesn’t even try to demand him to lift a finger for any family chore whatsoever. And my putz brother has zero interest in calling out the “Resort Guest” asshole. He is a huge slob, who has effectively trashed the guest house, which had been cleaned out, via his antique business inventory hoarding & being a slob in general.
The “Resort Guest” aside from cooking a meal that others have eaten, a handful of times, and taking his own dinner plate from the table, if someone else does not take it, essentially does not do a single family chore whatsoever, he is a grown ass spoiled brat- doesn’t pay one penny of the guest house utilities, all he pays on my father’s/mother’s car is gas, he gets summoned to cooked family dinner, and he gets to have my father be his dinner ATM when my mother cooks family dinner, along with sometimes my father as his ATM when my mother eats out for breakfast. Though my father will call the “Resort Guest” out for common courtesy- once there was a wooden table altercation where my father requested the “Resort Guest” to remove a wooden table he bought from my mother’s car (he is an antique dealer hoarder, who gets to have his Mothership gallivanting entitlement on the weekends), and he proceeded to flip the bird behind my father’s back, & call my father OCD & disrespectful all over requesting common courtesy of don’t use another person’s car as storage.
Here’s the kicker- my father moved the table for him out of the car, because he claimed he couldn’t carry/lift it, and he still behaved like a grown ass disdainful spoiled brat to my henpecked father. Yet my parents did not blackball the “Resort Guest” spoiled brat asshole taker from driving my mother’s car over that wooden table altercation, because my mother won’t go for it, this is a car my parents are still making car payments on, where he has caused major wear & tear to it, I would have blackballed him on the spot from driving the car, over that altercation, on principle of him making a spoiled brat out of himself, if it were my car!
My mother’s philosophy is basically enable her “defective” brother to be a worthless deadbeat asshole till death. She is too “afraid” of losing her relationship with him to call him out for his “Resort Guest” assholism. If my father were a millionaire he would buy the “Resort Guest” a car to get him to go back home, that’s how fed up my henpecked father is with his deadbeat leech brother-in-law. Plenty of spouses/men would divorce over the “Resort Guest” situation safe to say. My mother views the idea of my father hypothetically buying him a car to go back home as “abandoning” him, WTH? To her he is not mentally capable of living alone now, so me, my parents, & brother are stuck with the “Resort Guest” situation!.
My family’s “Resort Guest” situation could star on a Dr. Phil family freeloaders/spoiled brats episode, I’d love to hear Dr. Phil’s opinion about it, and see his scathing censure of the “Resort Guest” for behaving like a spoiled brat, & his disdain for his upper middle class henpecked brother-in-law that he (effectively) leeches off, who has done far more for him than his own brother has in decades (effectively disowned his family of birth), yet he holds no grudge against his brother for not being participatory in his life, a huge WTH?
Does anyone here have any suggestions regarding this “Resort Guest” spoiled brat family freeloader asshole situation? My henpecked father should lay down the law, and kick him out, demand that he go back home (he would need a car to do so, but how is he supposed to afford a car, when he has idiotically lived hand to mouth his entire adult life, he has no personal savings, his “savings” is antique business hoarding inventory?). Imagine if my henpecked father hypothetically divorced- he couldn’t be such a spoiled brat!. It is such a major source of aggravation both for me & my father, the fact that he essentially doesn’t do a single family chore, getting to have his entourage of 4 servants for various categories, and my parents won’t demand the asshole taker to lift a finger for any family chore whatsoever. My anger does not feel at all honored about the “Resort Guest” situation.
-Thank you, Ethereal
The “Resort Guest” aside from cooking a meal that others have eaten, a handful of times, and taking his own dinner plate from the table, if someone else does not take it, essentially does not do a single family chore whatsoever, he is a grown ass spoiled brat- doesn’t pay one penny of the guest house utilities, all he pays on my father’s/mother’s car is gas, he gets summoned to cooked family dinner, and he gets to have my father be his dinner ATM when my mother cooks family dinner, along with sometimes my father as his ATM when my mother eats out for breakfast. Though my father will call the “Resort Guest” out for common courtesy- once there was a wooden table altercation where my father requested the “Resort Guest” to remove a wooden table he bought from my mother’s car (he is an antique dealer hoarder, who gets to have his Mothership gallivanting entitlement on the weekends), and he proceeded to flip the bird behind my father’s back, & call my father OCD & disrespectful all over requesting common courtesy of don’t use another person’s car as storage.
Here’s the kicker- my father moved the table for him out of the car, because he claimed he couldn’t carry/lift it, and he still behaved like a grown ass disdainful spoiled brat to my henpecked father. Yet my parents did not blackball the “Resort Guest” spoiled brat asshole taker from driving my mother’s car over that wooden table altercation, because my mother won’t go for it, this is a car my parents are still making car payments on, where he has caused major wear & tear to it, I would have blackballed him on the spot from driving the car, over that altercation, on principle of him making a spoiled brat out of himself, if it were my car!
My mother’s philosophy is basically enable her “defective” brother to be a worthless deadbeat asshole till death. She is too “afraid” of losing her relationship with him to call him out for his “Resort Guest” assholism. If my father were a millionaire he would buy the “Resort Guest” a car to get him to go back home, that’s how fed up my henpecked father is with his deadbeat leech brother-in-law. Plenty of spouses/men would divorce over the “Resort Guest” situation safe to say. My mother views the idea of my father hypothetically buying him a car to go back home as “abandoning” him, WTH? To her he is not mentally capable of living alone now, so me, my parents, & brother are stuck with the “Resort Guest” situation!.
My family’s “Resort Guest” situation could star on a Dr. Phil family freeloaders/spoiled brats episode, I’d love to hear Dr. Phil’s opinion about it, and see his scathing censure of the “Resort Guest” for behaving like a spoiled brat, & his disdain for his upper middle class henpecked brother-in-law that he (effectively) leeches off, who has done far more for him than his own brother has in decades (effectively disowned his family of birth), yet he holds no grudge against his brother for not being participatory in his life, a huge WTH?
Does anyone here have any suggestions regarding this “Resort Guest” spoiled brat family freeloader asshole situation? My henpecked father should lay down the law, and kick him out, demand that he go back home (he would need a car to do so, but how is he supposed to afford a car, when he has idiotically lived hand to mouth his entire adult life, he has no personal savings, his “savings” is antique business hoarding inventory?). Imagine if my henpecked father hypothetically divorced- he couldn’t be such a spoiled brat!. It is such a major source of aggravation both for me & my father, the fact that he essentially doesn’t do a single family chore, getting to have his entourage of 4 servants for various categories, and my parents won’t demand the asshole taker to lift a finger for any family chore whatsoever. My anger does not feel at all honored about the “Resort Guest” situation.
-Thank you, Ethereal
