My parents don't understand me and I can't take it anymore!

[Ephraim Becker]

I'm very depressed that no one my age that has something in common with me is interested in me at all and that the only people that are interested in me are people that have nothing in common with me at all and are in Yeshiva (a school where people are just studying the Jewish laws) far away from where I live all day. I told my father about my friend problems multiple times and these are some of the responses that my father always says to me:

1. "Whatever! The main thing is to focus on your job and future."
2. "There are plenty of people to talk to. Talk to [my father lists all the people that have nothing in common with me, plus they are in Yeshiva (a school where people are just studying the Jewish laws) far away from where I live all day]"
3. "Of course you don't have any friends! You don't care about other people!"

To make matters worse, my father found a job for me that i'm not so interested in, implementing an SDK into merchant websites, and the boss gave me the job right away. My father threatened me that if I don't take this job seriously, then i'll be kicked out of the house.

My father always says to me how "lucky" I am that I get to live in his house and that I get to eat the food which he pays for and that that he wants me to be productive and not be in bed all day. I get a huge headache from all this, which is why I am in bed a lot of the day.

I want to do things which i'm interested in like making my own green screen video and making my own products and selling them. Also, I saw a lot of stuff about job hiring for people on the autism spectrum, like the Microsoft Autism Hiring Program. I don't feel that the job my father found me and wants me to take seriously is for me at all. I want a job that is autistic-friendly.

I'm very upset that I have to be serious and focus on working. I really want to have fun with friends my type. Not one thing gets my way at all. My parents don't seem to care at all that I don't have the friends that I want. I expected my life to be much better than this.

I can't take it anymore! What do I do?

 

[AustinTheAspie]

I know how you feel, dude. My parents are very similar. As long as you know what you want out of life (it being making green screen and being a salesman) that's really all that matters. Don't listen to your parents; you're your own man. I personally still don't know what I want to do with my life 100% at 22, so it seems you're ahead of me in that regard. It seems that your dad is being very controlling, but if he's threatening to kick you out if you don't do that job, you might as well just do it for now until you've saved up the income to start your own life. I'm currently unemployed on disability, and a recovering drug addict, in a town I can't stand. So, you could be me. As for your friends, you don't need them to be truly happy.

 

[Questella]

Well he's not very helpful...

Take the job and immediatly start looking for one youd rather have, I always hear it's easier to get a job when you have a job...?

Try not to get kicked out, homeless shelters are not fun, and talk about sensory overload.