My wife tells me I make enemies wherever I go....

[Olsworth39]

My wife tells me I make enemies wherever I go, at 25 I had a blood test which came back for XYY, 39 now, which explained some things but not all, I always seems to have problems with interacting socially, I know what to say somehow I’ve learnt my way through a conversation, i think im polite, I’m often stumped at an unexpected situation, I have regular heated outbursts, I’m often confused by my own actions but yet repeatedly make the same mistakes over and over again, I’m often let go or fired from jobs, my thoughts are often jumbled, so are my words when they come out, I think I’m making sense but no one else understands. I can be very quiet/talkative, am often quiet when expected to respond, I used to go mental but now I’m quiet. I can talk for Britain if its something I love, despite the other person getting very bored and can’t get a word in edgeways until I’m done. I change my mind about everything repeatedly. I love my wife dearly and our 4 month old daughter. I’m very sensitive and respond badly to criticism, I worry about everything incessantly, I’m very defensive even when there’s no call for it, I’ve done the autism test and scored 34-37 of 40 on several occasions. I have difficulty interacting with my own family as I have hurt them time after time, my wife’s family I adore and don’t have as much trouble as my own. I’ve had depression and been suicidal on many occasions. I’m working full time as a Painter decorator. Done 5 years of Cognitive behavioural therapy but not much has changed. I want my relationship to work so badly with my wife as I really would like to have a family unit something I missed out on growing up after Mum married many times. A bit lost? Should I get diagnosed?

 

[Mia]

Hi Olsworth, welcome to Aspies Central. Being an Aspie can be tough, especially out there in the world. I can't say for certain if you are.
Many people who come here have done lots of research already as it seems you have. Good luck from Canada

 

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[Hedgehog Instigator]

XYY Syndrome - NORD (National Organization for Rare Disorders) this may be helpful to you.

 

[Tom]

That XYY thing does explain some of the tendencies. I don't have that as far as I know but have had issues with getting over emotional over minor things. I could see it in retrospect but not at the time. I have made a good improvement with the combo of going on an anti-anxiety med and installing an emotional reaction delay discipline. When I feel the impulse to get upset I do not let it out. I'll wait a day or two and revisit the thoughts and see if there was anything actually valid. If there was I will then raise the issue in a calm state. But 98% the time it was not valid or worth persuing and so the matter drops. Really just another way of saying 'sleep on it'.

 

[nowwhat]

Much of what you describe about yourself applies to me, as well. I'm only one of the many here who can relate. Remember that and feel free to share. This is a cool place.

 

[Nitro]

Hi Olsworth39

 

[RainbowAura]

I make enemies wherever I go too and have the same issues you have but not xyy..never heard of it..maybe I have it.

 

[RainbowAura]

I make enemies wherever I go too and have the same issues you have but not xyy..never heard of it..maybe I have it.

 

[Olsworth39]

My wife tells me I make enemies wherever I go, at 25 I had a blood test which came back for XYY, 39 now, which explained some things but not all, I always seems to have problems with interacting socially, I know what to say somehow I’ve learnt my way through a conversation, i think im polite, I’m often stumped at an unexpected situation, I have regular heated outbursts, I’m often confused by my own actions but yet repeatedly make the same mistakes over and over again, I’m often let go or fired from jobs, my thoughts are often jumbled, so are my words when they come out, I think I’m making sense but no one else understands. I can be very quiet/talkative, am often quiet when expected to respond, I used to go mental but now I’m quiet. I can talk for Britain if its something I love, despite the other person getting very bored and can’t get a word in edgeways until I’m done. I change my mind about everything repeatedly. I love my wife dearly and our 4 month old daughter. I’m very sensitive and respond badly to criticism, I worry about everything incessantly, I’m very defensive even when there’s no call for it, I’ve done the autism test and scored 34-37 of 40 on several occasions. I have difficulty interacting with my own family as I have hurt them time after time, my wife’s family I adore and don’t have as much trouble as my own. I’ve had depression and been suicidal on many occasions. I’m working full time as a Painter decorator. Done 5 years of Cognitive behavioural therapy but not much has changed. I want my relationship to work so badly with my wife as I really would like to have a family unit something I missed out on growing up after Mum married many times. A bit lost? Should I get diagnosed?

 

[WereBear]

You could get diagnosed, but you could wind up like me: where I ask what they can do for me now and they say, "Nothing."

 

[Olsworth39]

I thank you for your kind words and comments, it's a tough one, had a bit of breakdown today in tesco car park of all places, just started crying, I'm worried for the future, where I fit in, if only we could win the lottery, life would be so much easier and slightly cheaper. I worry about everything, me, I've become negative about the in which I live I don't know, I just want to be happy, successful and normal.

 

[Olsworth39]

...World

 

[Anthracite]

Whether you go specifically for an ASD diagnosis or not, I definitely think you'd benefit from talking to your doctor. You sound really miserable right now and they may be able to help get you on the right track for help.

 

[Mary Anne]

My wife tells me I make enemies wherever I go, at 25 I had a blood test which came back for XYY,

What kind of blood test is this? I am getting a annual lipids blood test next week and would like to inquire about it. What is this XYY?