Name it to tame it.....

[Aspychata]

Black and White thinking, going to into deep diving depths here, (snorkel needed) - bear with me, trying to present coherently....

So sometimes black and white thinking helps short circuit ruminations pretty conveniently.

Ex: this employer gave me a funny look, and their tone was so weird- am l getting fired, should l look for a new job, what's up bossaroo? I think l will pull black & white thinking out of my top hat. It's been a bad revenue year, they are upset about falling of their diet, and whatever. It's not me.

This effectively cuts down on me blaming myself and excessive worry for the rest of the night.

Or: he sounded mad at me, must be his horrible day at work, and his flat tire....otherwise l may spend the rest of the day ruminating he is pissed at me because l did something stupid.

Like assigning values to something gets me out of the rabbit hole of obsessive thoughts. Do l know that it could be a wrong presumption? Yes, completely. But it's easy for me to use then think excessively. She is upset because her baby is crying and she got zero sleep last nite- that's why she was rude.

Anybody else uses this train of thought to keep them off 20 freeway lanes of ongoing thought process of it's all on my head? Yes, l have gone back and rewritten that line of code if it was completely garbage code.

It helps cut down on getting upset also. Did l hear that right? Did they say that to piss me off? They look constipated, it's not worth my anger. Then l satisfy my brain's happiness points that l effectively dealt with it and can shove all of the conversation pod into the retired wth folder, and l can effectively ruminate on something more important like finances or whatever.

You can also suggest a title, or jokes, or pictures of your pets or.........lol

 

[Varzar]

Anybody else uses this train of thought to keep them off 20 freeway lanes of ongoing thought process of it's all on my head? Yes, l have gone back and rewritten that line of code if it was completely garbage code.

Absolutely. Yes. All the time.... Yes....

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

Like assigning values to something gets me out of the rabbit hole of obsessive thoughts

Name it to tame it is the phrase.

No matter what you think,you can also think the opposite.

There's a book called the kindness method by shahroo something or other.
Uses similar methods I've been using for a while,although less humor based.

 

[Aspychata]

Name it to tame it is the phrase.

No matter what you think,you can also think the opposite.

There's a book called the kindness method by shahroo something or other.
Uses similar methods I've been using for a while,although less humor based.

Okay , l changed it to your excellent suggestion! I never realised l had started doing this, but l like your input. Since coming to this site, l understand l internalize and bathe in self-blame (but did end obsessive worrying for the most part). Guess l was confused how to explain this process and make understandable to other readers, yet hoping to not bias their thought process with incorrect labeling. Still don't think it's black and white thinking but maybe there are better descriptive words.

It's okay, we really don't know anybody and we all leave on a single ticket.

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

Okay , l changed it to your excellent suggestion! I never realised l had started doing this, but l like your input. Since coming to this site, l understand l internalize and bathe in self-blame (but did end obsessive worrying for the most part). Guess l was confused how to explain this process and make understandable to other readers, yet hoping to not bias their thought process with incorrect labeling. Still don't think it's black and white thinking but maybe there are better descriptive words.

It's okay, we really don't know anybody and we all leave on a single ticket.

'Stop the nops' is a phrase I used to use.
(Negative old patterns)
Part of becoming aware of unproductive habits of thought.
You can then name different ones as they arise .. different anxiety ones etc.
The trick is took upon what's happening kindly ( easier said than done) and the names for these processes become old friends as you tame them.

Kindness is the key.
My excuse was 'how could I be nice to others if I can't be nice to myself?'
That was how I tricked myself into caring for me.

 

[Progster]

Yes, this is good to remember - many of us have the tendency to assume that when someone is angry with us or something goes wrong that it must be our fault, when that's often not the case at all - there are many reasons why a person may seem angry or upset that don't have anything to do with us, the person might be stressed/having a bad day and we are 'the straw that broke the camel's back.'

 

[Streetwise]

Black and White thinking, going to into deep diving depths here, (snorkel needed) - bear with me, trying to present coherently....

So sometimes black and white thinking helps short circuit ruminations pretty conveniently.

Ex: this employer gave me a funny look, and their tone was so weird- am l getting fired, should l look for a new job, what's up bossaroo? I think l will pull black & white thinking out of my top hat. It's been a bad revenue year, they are upset about falling of their diet, and whatever. It's not me.

This effectively cuts down on me blaming myself and excessive worry for the rest of the night.

Or: he sounded mad at me, must be his horrible day at work, and his flat tire....otherwise l may spend the rest of the day ruminating he is pissed at me because l did something stupid.

Like assigning values to something gets me out of the rabbit hole of obsessive thoughts. Do l know that it could be a wrong presumption? Yes, completely. But it's easy for me to use then think excessively. She is upset because her baby is crying and she got zero sleep last nite- that's why she was rude.

Anybody else uses this train of thought to keep them off 20 freeway lanes of ongoing thought process of it's all on my head? Yes, l have gone back and rewritten that line of code if it was completely garbage code.

It helps cut down on getting upset also. Did l hear that right? Did they say that to piss me off? They look constipated, it's not worth my anger. Then l satisfy my brain's happiness points that l effectively dealt with it and can shove all of the conversation pod into the retired wth folder, and l can effectively ruminate on something more important like finances or whatever.

You can also suggest a title, or jokes, or pictures of your pets or.........lol

If you are not being physically dangerous remember this paraphrase from a story man named Elijah speaking to don't to a widow don't make any person that important .

I'll pm you later

 

[Wolfnox]

Yep. Or just do this.