Need help deciphering a girls intentions

[mellowriot]

Hey there,
So, I'm talking to someone. I know it isn't going to go anywhere, but thats not important. What I need help with, is that she writes "poetry" and posts it online sorta like a hobby. The thing is, her poems aren't poems at all, they're more like poetic journal entries, and well they're about her being with some guy.

I sort of feel like a normal person would see this and say "uh oh, she's hooking up with her ex; I'm walking away right now". But me, with my complete inability to read emotions and intentions (well, maybe not complete) I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I never know! I NEVER KNOW! I have literally lost the chance of having threesomes. and I also lost the chance to be with my sons mother. So, what would you think if the girl you're texting writes things like this online? would you walk away, or keep talking ?

I feel like maybe she doesn't know how to let me down, maybe she's too nice herself? I don't know..

 

[Kwickyfeet Icypaws]

I never know! I NEVER KNOW!

Right there with yeh. This is so real to me.

Don't torture yourself trying to figure the unknowable. When it is not off-topic or out of the blue, maybe just ask if she's still with him. Because you're interested. Which, you are.

Don't fall into the trap of comparing yourself to her ex, either. At the end of the day your only true race is with yourself.

TBH, if there isn't a commitment established I would hedge my bets by pursuing other possibilities while pursuing her.

Best to you.

 

[clg114]

I have been married most of my life. I have wife, two adult daughters and three daughters-in-law. I never know what is going on in those pretty little heads. I just do what I'm told and keep my mouth shut. That way everything goes well.

 

[mellowriot]

I have been married most of my life. I have wife, two adult daughters and three daughters-in-law. I never know what is going on in those pretty little heads. I just do what I'm told and keep my mouth shut. That way everything goes well.

I envy your ability to let go of control. I wouldn't be able to handle your situation, it would drive me mad. I don't think I'm even mature enough to admit I need help relaxing. That too is too much for me.

 

[clg114]

I envy your ability to let go of control. I wouldn't be able to handle your situation, it would drive me mad. I don't think I'm even mature enough to admit I need help relaxing. That too is too much for me.

It is probably just because of the difference between 27 and 71. Give yourself some time.

 

[Beguiling Orbit]

These poems could have a number of different meanings. She could be writing:

1. Autobiographically with herself as the speaker writing to a real (unknown) romantic interest, or
2. Semi-autobiographically with herself as speaker writing to a fictional romantic interest, or
3. With the voice of a fictional speaker writing to a real (unknown) person, or
4. As a fictional speaker writing to a fictional subject.

Notice that only one of the four possibilities MIGHT involve both you AND her. Don't ever assume anything or try to read in between the lines of these poems. You can never be certain unless she comes right out and tells you the meaning of the poems or that the subject is you. Simply enjoy them for what they are--poetry. That will help you relax and have a common interest from which to have a conversation with your friend, in this case a literary discussion ("That was an interesting poem. Why did you choose that particular point of view? I think it's interesting how you set the mood with x and the tone with y.").

 

[mellowriot]

hey so I did something similar today. I asked whether the main character was going to be lucky in love or if she was going to be let down. she answered to stick around to find out...


I think I fumbled the next message, but thats unrelated.

im kinda using her to learn how to text anyways.. using her sounds harsh, I mean, I don't expect much to happen between us. I don't think I'm dating material yet.