Need Help On Something

[KevinMao133]

For a writer, the toughest decision one has to make is choosing between platforms. Which platform is best for growth, what is my end goal

I need help on something as I am making a difficult decision, potentially life changing decisions

I been writing on Wordpress.com for less than a year, since last October

I have a super consistent schedule. I am also a workhorse

That said, I’m considering making major changes as I’m considering moving my work to substack

I tried various methods, including importing all my content from Wordpress to substack but I don’t feel quite right

Something seems off I feel like and I can’t pinpoint why. It’s like making the change is overwhelming me

By making the change, I’m throwing away all my routines and as an autistic person, this drives me crazy. I know it will benefit me in the long term but short term, I don’t know how I’m going to overcome this

I need help as I feel like I’m struggling

 

[Roisin]

For a writer, the toughest decision one has to make is choosing between platforms. Which platform is best for growth, what is my end goal

I need help on something as I am making a difficult decision, potentially life changing decisions

I been writing on Wordpress.com for less than a year, since last October

I have a super consistent schedule. I am also a workhorse

That said, I’m considering making major changes as I’m considering moving my work to substack

I tried various methods, including importing all my content from Wordpress to substack but I don’t feel quite right

Something seems off I feel like and I can’t pinpoint why. It’s like making the change is overwhelming me

By making the change, I’m throwing away all my routines and as an autistic person, this drives me crazy. I know it will benefit me in the long term but short term, I don’t know how I’m going to overcome this

I need help as I feel like I’m struggling

You're making a big personal decision, and want to get it right, its a lot of pressure. No wonder you are struggling with change, seems like a normal healthy reaction for an Autistic person whose daily work routine has altered.

Think of other situations where you have had to deal with changes, is your reaction similar... I get a period of stuckness after I have to deal with change, its nearly always a low productivity phase, yet another certainty is I always adapt with time.

Perhaps for example a planned phasing in of changes to your day might help you adapt in a more managable way.

 

[AspieChris]

Change takes 3 days for me. In 72 hours, I go from feeling like the world will implode to feeling like it was nothing. And it doesn’t matter if Im changing careers, friends, or what brand of cornflakes I’m eating for breakfast. World ending to no-big-deal in 72 hours. And my son (16 also ASD) is exactly the same.

When I figured this out, life got easier. I still feel the pain of changes, of course. But knowing that there is a solution coming in 3 days absolutely helps me make uncomfortable decisions with wisdom instead of fear.

In the span of a person’s lifetime, that little 72 hour waiting period is the equivalent of ripping off a bandaid.

KevinMao133- Perhaps you are feeling a bit of that fear? Is it possible that your fear is as basic as mine?

 

[AndyFBlues]

I struggle with change as well. Sometimes I have to force myself to do something new. There are times when life doesn't give me a choice. I find that if I'm able to relax, that helps. I always have to remind myself that the sky isn't going to fall.

 

[KevinMao133]

Change takes 3 days for me. In 72 hours, I go from feeling like the world will implode to feeling like it was nothing. And it doesn’t matter if Im changing careers, friends, or what brand of cornflakes I’m eating for breakfast. World ending to no-big-deal in 72 hours. And my son (16 also ASD) is exactly the same.

When I figured this out, life got easier. I still feel the pain of changes, of course. But knowing that there is a solution coming in 3 days absolutely helps me make uncomfortable decisions with wisdom instead of fear.

In the span of a person’s lifetime, that little 72 hour waiting period is the equivalent of ripping off a bandaid.

KevinMao133- Perhaps you are feeling a bit of that fear? Is it possible that your fear is as basic as mine?

One of my biggest problems: trying to over correct myself

It’s not so much fear, rather it’s struggling to deal with self expectation

I will be alright but it will take time

 

[Peter Morrison]

In situations of uncomfortable change or demands, I use the phrase "ride the wave". It's not going to stay the way I expected or wanted, but it will calm down as I get used to it.