New here and kinda scared

[Iamarock]

My user name is iamarock (I am a rock) after the Paul Simon song which I really identify with.

At this point I am self diagnosed by taking several tests and all of them indicate that there is a high probability of being an aspie. I do intend on getting an official diagnosis and that is why I am kinda scared. Not because of what the results might be, but rather I am scared because I don't know if I should tell my wife that I think I have aspies before I seek professional help.

I hope I can find some help and support here.

 

[goodgravy]

Welcome!

 

[Manuheleku]

I think you will find lots of support here, some really nice people. I don't know what you should do, but I wish you all the best.

 

[Vanilla]

Welcome

If you're worried, it might be beneficial to learn as much as you can first. We're quite a helpful bunch, so feel free to look around, and post questions. I also recommend taking a look at the reading resources for answers:

Asperger's & Autism Resources | AspiesCentral.com

 

[Ereth]

No matter what you choose to do, you're welcome here. You'll definitely learn something!

 

[Warwick C]

Wecolme Imaroc, you will get support here and be able to learn more.

 

[GallacticGorilla]

Welcome i am a rock-

I find when breaking heavy news to someone you love, it is good if you can frame it in a way that is sensitive to what there fears and concerns might be, then it is a little easier of a pill to swallow. AS isnt the end of the world. IN some ways its the beginning, I feel i have more clarity and ease of thought now that i know what is wrong with me. I've known for years, but it took me a while to be honest about it.

I think the biggest relief for me was that i didn't spend so much time fighting my symptoms. Trying to force myself to be a NT. Maybe that will ultimately make you two stronger.

P.S .i was just saying to someone the other day how I am a rock is my favorite Simon and Garfunkle song (; Not my favorite Paul simon song mind you, but favorite S&G song . I really identify with it strongly too.

 

[Turk]

Hi Lamarock, and welcome,
Im a firm believer of disclosure, in marriage. I was 20 years into marriage before I found out and it answered as many questions for her, as for me. It doesnt change anything you already had. For her to know you trust her enough to be that honest, in the face of whay you fear, is something any wife would respect. You started your marriage as a partnership, so have the faith to continue your live's, this way.
Cheers
Turk

 

[Salmongirl17]

Okay, so I have very slowly revealed my "true personality" to a few close friends(similar to what Sportster said). I think you should probably ask a few people(close friends) if they believe you have aspergers. If yes, then you can probably tell your wife. She may figure it out sooner or later, too. Try to bring it up at a good time.

Just giving some tips(which are most likely useless). Anyway, welcome to AspicCentral!!