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New What what here. 52 years old, newly diagnosed aspergers, trying to learn to compensate

Do you have a desire for intimate relationships or have you actually found them more painful than us

  • More painful than useful

    Votes: 1 11.1%

  • Desire for intimate relationship

    Votes: 8 88.9%
  • Total voters
    9
  • Poll closed .
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What what

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I am hoping this will be a more supportive site for me to learn about my new diagnosis and what it means for my life. I think I need to learn about it to learn how to compensate for it.
 
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Hi @What what and welcome to the community :)

I can't really answer your poll because I'm happily married so neither option really applies to me now.

I hope you find this a friendly place. Most people do :)
 
Autistamatic said:
Hi @What what and welcome to the community :)

I can't really answer your poll because I'm happily married so neither option really applies to me now.

I hope you find this a friendly place. Most people do :)
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Thank you for the welcome. Since you are married I would assume you have a desire for intimate relationship because if you did not you would probably get a divorce. I am hoping to eventually find a spouse too.
 
What what said:
Thank you for the welcome. I really hope I do too. What do you find most useful here?
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I've been here almost a year. I think it's just socializing and talking to like-minded individuals that's useful. Also everyone here tends to give fantastic advice on things as well.
 
What what said:
Thank you for the welcome. Since you are married I would assume you have a desire for intimate relationship because if you did not you would probably get a divorce. I am hoping to eventually find a spouse too.
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I think I would best comment by saying that 13 years ago I searched for a friend who would understand me - I can't sustain networks of friends IRL - only one or two close friends at a time. I made a wonderful friend back then - the best of "best friends", who also happened to be a beautiful woman. The intimacy I sought was spiritual, cerebral & emotional, and it could just as easily have come from a guy as a girl. Because she & I are hetero it became something more and we got married so we can spend our lives in the company of the best friend either of us had ever known.
I sincerely hope you find someone who can fill such a role in your life :)
 
What what said:
I am hoping this will be a more supportive site for me to learn about my new diagnosis and what it means for my life. I think I need to learn about it to learn how to compensate for it.
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Or you could see it through a different lense now and use your special interests and gifts as the superpowers that they really are! Welcome :-)
 
Hi and welcome. I joined recently and found this place most welcoming and supportive. It really feels like the right tribe :)
The quality of discussion and advice is really enriching.
 
Autistamatic said:
I think I would best comment by saying that 13 years ago I searched for a friend who would understand me - I can't sustain networks of friends IRL - only one or two close friends at a time. I made a wonderful friend back then - the best of "best friends", who also happened to be a beautiful woman. The intimacy I sought was spiritual, cerebral & emotional, and it could just as easily have come from a guy as a girl. Because she & I are hetero it became something more and we got married so we can spend our lives in the company of the best friend either of us had ever known.
I sincerely hope you find someone who can fill such a role in your life :)
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Me too. I've always just had one or two close friends. Thank you
 
Welcome to the site,

What your diagnosis should hopefully be is a light on why you have struggled in some areas of your life while soaring through other areas.

You are still the same person you were before the diagnosis and just like everyone else you have strengths as well as weaknesses. Use your strengths to minimise your weaknesses.
 
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