Hey guys, what changes do you hope to make in your lives going forward into the new year?
I'm cheering for you! You can do it!
I'm cheering for you! You can do it!
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New Years Resolutions 2022
- Thread starter Yeshuasdaughter
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My new years resolutions:
* Lose the weight I gained during the holidays. I started the year out right. This evening I ordered a salad instead of a pizza.
* Get active on a real schedule and get strong enough to walk everywhere.
* Figure out what I believe and why.
* Spend time with my daughter more often. These next nine months will be her last at home before college.
* I really want to move.
* Travel around. Stay at the coast, go to the mountains. Maybe even just riding buses around in the small farm towns that surround the metro area.
* Do more crafting, sewing, and fiber work. Sew myself a super flowy hippie skirt and matching shawl.
* Pull out the keyboard, and play the piano often.
* Ignore politics. Don't watch the news.
*Give more than I receive, both in material goods, and in relationships.
* Buy a good pair of shoes.
* Lose the weight I gained during the holidays. I started the year out right. This evening I ordered a salad instead of a pizza.
* Get active on a real schedule and get strong enough to walk everywhere.
* Figure out what I believe and why.
* Spend time with my daughter more often. These next nine months will be her last at home before college.
* I really want to move.
* Travel around. Stay at the coast, go to the mountains. Maybe even just riding buses around in the small farm towns that surround the metro area.
* Do more crafting, sewing, and fiber work. Sew myself a super flowy hippie skirt and matching shawl.
* Pull out the keyboard, and play the piano often.
* Ignore politics. Don't watch the news.
*Give more than I receive, both in material goods, and in relationships.
* Buy a good pair of shoes.
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Mine are all linked.
* continue with my job and not get burnt out. I have to take time for myself as I tend to hypofocus.
*linked by resuming hobbies like crafting during downtime.
*Further linked: eat and drink properly. Remember that I am not a machine and can’t get by with minimal energy.
if anything extra happens, great!
* continue with my job and not get burnt out. I have to take time for myself as I tend to hypofocus.
*linked by resuming hobbies like crafting during downtime.
*Further linked: eat and drink properly. Remember that I am not a machine and can’t get by with minimal energy.
if anything extra happens, great!
I want to get to the point where the past social failures that made me feel unwanted, inadequate, and useless, will exert no more power over me.
I resolve not use the word "resolution" to define any part of my personal life or thinking. Especially related to "goals" or "plans" for the future.
I realize "New Years Resolutions" is a common phrase and idea. I am not picking on anyone who uses it and certainly not trying to throw shade on this thread!
Instead I want to share an idea about how I choose to live life.
The thing is, $#!+ happens! Life is full of plot twists and much of it was not in the script. I deliberately choose not to set any "goal" because I have found that way of life leads to more self recrimination that actually accomplishing anything!
Instead I choose to acknowledge my desires and work towords them as I am able.
I grew up with a parent who tried to pin me and my brother down and define us by goals met or unmet. Our worth was balanced on whether or not we "accomplished" goals that were rather random in nature. Goals largely decided upon by our desire to please the parental unit. And woe to us if we failed in achieving these meaningless tasks. "I thought you were going to...why didn't you? It would behoove you to..."
The truth is, I wake up everyday thinking "what feels happy today?" "What feels good?".
My parental unit was shocked by this. She accussed me of being lazy, unwise and many other, not so nice, things. I was, in her mind, a failure.
But from my perspective, I couldn't understand her at all. Each day was spent fraught with anxiety about "the right deciscion", "accomplished goals and objectives" and worries about her "failures". When I asked her what was the point of these machinations she would always tell me it was "to be happy".
This is the part I don't understand. How can one spend so much time setting ones self up with difficult and impossible tasks in the name of "happiness"? This seems rather contradicory to me. You simply can not find happiness by setting yourself up to be miserable.
So I don't set resolution or goals for myself. Instead I just imagine what might be possible. I will put in the approprite work to bring the possibilities to fruition as long as doing so does not cause me to feel unhappy.
My parental unit would say this is "short sighted". But $#!+ happens! If I spend all my time doing things to be happy in the future, and do not enjoy my present, the time I am actually living, I will have squandered the life I have and never experienced happiness at all. Since "being happy" is the real goal, who is actually "short sighted"?
Well, that all came out of no where! Kudos if you read the whole thing.
I realize "New Years Resolutions" is a common phrase and idea. I am not picking on anyone who uses it and certainly not trying to throw shade on this thread!
Instead I want to share an idea about how I choose to live life.
The thing is, $#!+ happens! Life is full of plot twists and much of it was not in the script. I deliberately choose not to set any "goal" because I have found that way of life leads to more self recrimination that actually accomplishing anything!
Instead I choose to acknowledge my desires and work towords them as I am able.
I grew up with a parent who tried to pin me and my brother down and define us by goals met or unmet. Our worth was balanced on whether or not we "accomplished" goals that were rather random in nature. Goals largely decided upon by our desire to please the parental unit. And woe to us if we failed in achieving these meaningless tasks. "I thought you were going to...why didn't you? It would behoove you to..."
The truth is, I wake up everyday thinking "what feels happy today?" "What feels good?".
My parental unit was shocked by this. She accussed me of being lazy, unwise and many other, not so nice, things. I was, in her mind, a failure.
But from my perspective, I couldn't understand her at all. Each day was spent fraught with anxiety about "the right deciscion", "accomplished goals and objectives" and worries about her "failures". When I asked her what was the point of these machinations she would always tell me it was "to be happy".
This is the part I don't understand. How can one spend so much time setting ones self up with difficult and impossible tasks in the name of "happiness"? This seems rather contradicory to me. You simply can not find happiness by setting yourself up to be miserable.
So I don't set resolution or goals for myself. Instead I just imagine what might be possible. I will put in the approprite work to bring the possibilities to fruition as long as doing so does not cause me to feel unhappy.
My parental unit would say this is "short sighted". But $#!+ happens! If I spend all my time doing things to be happy in the future, and do not enjoy my present, the time I am actually living, I will have squandered the life I have and never experienced happiness at all. Since "being happy" is the real goal, who is actually "short sighted"?
Well, that all came out of no where! Kudos if you read the whole thing.
This is a wonderful way to live. You made me smile.
For me it's:
Reach my goal weight of 135
Not worry about things I obviously don't have control of
Take better care of my teeth
Make a daily schedule that I can feel comfortable with
Help more around the house
That's it for now.
Reach my goal weight of 135
Not worry about things I obviously don't have control of
Take better care of my teeth
Make a daily schedule that I can feel comfortable with
Help more around the house
That's it for now.
@crewlucaa_ , I keep reading "Who are you when you are hungry?". Are you trying to tell us you need a good meal?
Probably@crewlucaa_ , I keep reading "Who are you when you are hungry?". Are you trying to tell us you need a good meal?
I did buy some healthy snacks though so I should probably eat those instead of a Snickers
Probably
justin_havu
Well-Known Member
Mine is quite simple--get back into shape and do something about the 80+ pounds I've gained over the past four years due to all the anti-anxiety and antidepressant meds I've been on. I know it's the meds because I'm usually very active, and diet-wise, I can pretty much eat what I want and still be in really good shape, as long as I'm keeping an eye on portion control.
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