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[douglas_wright]

I am a 68 year old male, diagnosed with ADHD and possibly ASD.
I am married and now retired.
I have issues reading the room and dealing with other’s emotions which is causing problems with my marriage. Does anyone else have issues like this? what do you do to keep the peace and love in your marriage. Help!

 

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[VictorR]

Welcome!

Do you have time/space for yourself? If not, that's something you may find helpful - to have blocks of time where you know you can be yourself, and recharge from things that you may find demanding.

 

[douglas_wright]

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Thanks

 

[douglas_wright]

Welcome!

Do you have time/space for yourself? If not, that's something you may find helpful - to have blocks of time where you know you can be yourself, and recharge from things that you may find demanding.

Yes I have plenty of me time hobbies and community service kind of stuff.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

Welcome @douglas_wright . My marriage has its ups and downs for 44 years. How do we keep the peace and love going? We support each other. While we have common interests, we each have our own special interests. and give each other room to enjoy them. My spouse enjoys designing things and I will assist in building them as she is afraid of power tools. Last project we did, she got hold of her family's crib and repurposed parts to serve as headboards and footboards for our split king bed. Gives new meaning to referring to it as our crib. We also remain physically demonstrative for the care and love we have for each other.

 

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[Rodafina]

Hello and welcome! Glad you have found us, and I’m hopeful that you will find a great deal of understanding and answers to the questions you have.

 

[douglas_wright]

Hello and welcome! Glad you have found us, and I’m hopeful that you will find a great deal of understanding and answers to the questions you have.

Thank you

 

[WiffingWaffles]

Hey, may i ask?
Did you suspect something might be up previously, or did these issues start coming around recently?


Welcome, btw.

 

[douglas_wright]

Hey, may i ask?
Did you suspect something might be up previously, or did these issues start coming around recently?


Welcome, btw.

No, I didn’t, I always thought it was others that had the problems. After looking back I could see how my ADHD and ASD worked to my advantage through my working years. I was a control freak and ended up in my career running 3 different companies that I took from the verge of bankruptcy to quite large and profitable manufacturing companies. The last being over 600 employees when I retired. During this time I thought everything in my personal life was fine, only to find out it wasn’t. I put my wife through hell. Trying my best now to Make up for it

 

[WiffingWaffles]

No, I didn’t, I always thought it was others that had the problems. After looking back I could see how my ADHD and ASD worked to my advantage through my working years. I was a control freak and ended up in my career running 3 different companies that I took from the verge of bankruptcy to quite large and profitable manufacturing companies. The last being over 600 employees when I retired. During this time I thought everything in my personal life was fine, only to find out it wasn’t. I put my wife through hell. Trying my best now to Make up for it

Damn!

So you're executive level; that's an impressive feat, but i could see how that type of personality could lead to problems in marriage.

Some of those habits could be transferring in the way to speak to your (Significant other) Unintentionally.

 

[douglas_wright]

Damn!

So you're executive level; that's an impressive feat, but i could see how that type of personality could lead to problems in marriage.

Some of those habits could be transferring in the way to speak to your (Significant other) Unintentionally.

Yes the habits are definitely transferring. I’m trying very hard to keep them in check.