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michelle83

michelle83

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Hi I’m Michelle. I am newly diagnosed. I am a mother of 4, 2 non verbal little boys and have been diagnosed with autism fitting the ‘passive’ profile. I am 40 years old and so relieved to finally feel like I have some understanding of what my life is.
 
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HI and welcome @michelle83
Im glad you have found this place.

Do get to know us, hang around a bit and chip in when you feel you have something to share (or ask)
 
Hello and welcome! I hope you enjoy your time here. Let us know if you need any help settling in and figuring things out.
 
Crossbreed said:
Hello & welcome.

Do you mind me asking which country you are in?
(I have never heard the term "passive" being applied to autism before.)
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Hi I am in the UK. She said I present as a passive profile which is someone that is easily led and goes along with things for a quiet life. Good at responding to social interactions but wouldn’t instigate one x
 
michelle83 said:
Hi I am in the UK. She said I present as a passive profile which is someone that is easily led and goes along with things for a quiet life. Good at responding to social interactions but wouldn’t instigate one x
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Sounds a bit like me. Welcome to the forum by the way. :)
 
michelle83 said:
She said I present as a passive profile which is someone that is easily led and goes along with things for a quiet life.
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This is certainly not exclusive to women, but what you describe seems to be a significant part of why women were not diagnosed as often as men in previous decades. A variety of factors including sociocultural expectations seems to have encouraged many autistic women to learn passivity and masking from a very young age.

I am somewhat like you in that I can survive social interactions all right, but it comes with a chameleon’s mask and a very heavy price that eventually causes exhaustion, burnout, and a lack of self identity.

I hope that you can learn about yourself and autism in a way that continues to bring relief and understanding. It sounds like you will certainly need that for your children! I can only imagine it can be quite difficult to have four children no matter how much joy and satisfaction they bring to you.

Glad you found us.
 
Rodafina said:
This is certainly not exclusive to women, but what you describe seems to be a significant part of why women were not diagnosed as often as men in previous decades. A variety of factors including sociocultural expectations seems to have encouraged many autistic women to learn passivity and masking from a very young age.

I am somewhat like you in that I can survive social interactions all right, but it comes with a chameleon’s mask and a very heavy price that eventually causes exhaustion, burnout, and a lack of self identity.

I hope that you can learn about yourself and autism in a way that continues to bring relief and understanding. It sounds like you will certainly need that for your children! I can only imagine it can be quite difficult to have four children no matter how much joy and satisfaction they bring to you.

Glad you found us.
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Thank you. No it’s not exclusive to women but yes definitely correct, females learn certain techniques to fit in in school etc. i often thought I was trying to hide the fast I was anxious or shy but I was masking my autism since I was very young.

2 of my kids are a little older so it’s not as chaotic as it sounds but yes the youngest boys with their struggles has been hard at times.

Hoping my diagnosis helps me be more comfortable with being myself and owning it
 
michelle83 said:
Hi I am in the UK. She said I present as a passive profile which is someone that is easily led and goes along with things for a quiet life. Good at responding to social interactions but wouldn’t instigate one x
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I'm kind of like that as well - as I like to say, I'm not one to throw a party but I'd seldom decline an invitation to one, and I'm pretty go-with-the-flow on many things.
 
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