Newly diagnosed

[Mary R]

Hi there,

I've recently been diagnosed with Asperger's. I'm now in my 30's. It has come as a relief, after years of wondering why I'm so different.

I don't know if i should tell people about it. It may help them understand but I'm afraid of being judged or rejected.

It is great to have found this forum

 

[Streetwise]

hello what part of the world are you live in certain countries have a better attitude than others ,I havent told people

 

[peachykeen]

Hello
My advice is just to always be uniquely you. You say it has been a relief to get your diagnosis, so why go from struggling with not knowing yourself pre diagnosis to struggling with others not knowing you post diagnosis.

On the offchance people judge or reject you, those aren’t people you need in your life.

If you want to share it with people then definitely do, but you have every right to keep it to yourself if that’s what you’d prefer. Let the choice come from you, not what you think others around you will say.

And good luck

 

[tree]

 

[Anthracite]

Decide at your own pace, it's your life and your decision. I would have information in hand first though before you tell people, just in case they ask questions (I printed a sheet off for my father, made it a lot easier).

 

[Nervous Rex]

Welcome!

I am still fairly new to my diagnosis (5 months), and am trying to tell people on a need-to-know basis only. My advice to you would be to wait until your diagnosis no longer feels new, or feels like news to you. Then your decision about who to tell can be made with a clearer mind.

As with all free advice, it's probably worth what you paid for it.

 

[Mary R]

hello what part of the world are you live in certain countries have a better attitude than others ,I havent told people

I live in Ireland. Not really sure what peoples attitudes are like.

 

[Mary R]

Thank you all for the warm welcome! I won't talk about it to anyone just yet.

 

[Nitro]

Hi Mary R

 

[Tom]

I'd keep the diagnosis private in most all cases. You can always let the cat out of the bag, but you can't get it back in. And yes there is negative stereotyping. Plenty of people out there have mental/medical conditions they keep private. Its your right. I would tell a spouse certainly, and maybe certain close family members and trusted friends.