AdamR
NT partner, often in awe and rarely disappointed
Hello, Everyone.
My name is Adam, and I live in the UK. A few months ago I became romantically involved with a wonderful Aspie man (so yes, I am/we are gay). John, my partner, has never been officially diagnosed as he is aversive to doctors in general, but his sister-in-law has spent her career as a nurse working with persons on the Autism Spectrum and is absolutely certain he has AS. John agrees with her assessment. He was diagnosed with a panic disorder, OCD and Tourette's in adolescence. Based on his symptoms, he still believes these conditions exist in him separately from his Asperger's.
We have great family support, including his brother and sister-in-law who have been enormously helpful to me in my understanding of my Aspie mate. I'll admit, though, at times he is a puzzle and there are significant problems we will have to work through. I have read that many "mixed" relationships between AS and NT partners don't fare well for the long haul, but we are both determined that we be successful together. As such, here I am--looking to learn more about AS from the true experts on the subject. It just makes sense to me that some of my learning should be coming from other AS people. I hope you are open to sharing with me.
I beg your forgiveness in advance if I ever say anything that's considered politically incorrect in the Autism Spectrum community. Part of my learning will surely be adaptation to proper terminology and ways of reference, and I'm very open to your corrections. I am also open to your own questions, of course. Consider me an open book.
I'm very glad to have found you all.
EDIT: I called myself an open book. I should say, however, that because my partner is a public figure, I may be shy about some of his personal details, even some things that might seem rather general to you. This is for his protection only.
My name is Adam, and I live in the UK. A few months ago I became romantically involved with a wonderful Aspie man (so yes, I am/we are gay). John, my partner, has never been officially diagnosed as he is aversive to doctors in general, but his sister-in-law has spent her career as a nurse working with persons on the Autism Spectrum and is absolutely certain he has AS. John agrees with her assessment. He was diagnosed with a panic disorder, OCD and Tourette's in adolescence. Based on his symptoms, he still believes these conditions exist in him separately from his Asperger's.
We have great family support, including his brother and sister-in-law who have been enormously helpful to me in my understanding of my Aspie mate. I'll admit, though, at times he is a puzzle and there are significant problems we will have to work through. I have read that many "mixed" relationships between AS and NT partners don't fare well for the long haul, but we are both determined that we be successful together. As such, here I am--looking to learn more about AS from the true experts on the subject. It just makes sense to me that some of my learning should be coming from other AS people. I hope you are open to sharing with me.
I beg your forgiveness in advance if I ever say anything that's considered politically incorrect in the Autism Spectrum community. Part of my learning will surely be adaptation to proper terminology and ways of reference, and I'm very open to your corrections. I am also open to your own questions, of course. Consider me an open book.
I'm very glad to have found you all.
EDIT: I called myself an open book. I should say, however, that because my partner is a public figure, I may be shy about some of his personal details, even some things that might seem rather general to you. This is for his protection only.
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Ok that's not strictly true, but there are ups and downs, and I've learnt just as much from NT posters on here as I have my fellow aspies.
