OK, I am not sure if I handled this correctly.

[Metalhead]

My younger sister went with me to the GWAR concert last Saturday night. During GWAR's set, we got separated in the crowd in front of the stage by a group of five belligerent people forcing and shoving their way to the front of the stage. My sister then had a panic attack which I did not know about since I had no idea where in the crowd she was. She later found me and told me to enjoy the rest of the show in front of the stage, she just felt like sitting and watching the rest of the show from the seating in the bar area from that point forward.

I did enjoy the rest of the show in front of the stage despite being occasionally shoved around. After the show, I met up with my sister in front of the venue and we went back to my place for the night.

My mother found out about this because my sister told her, and then I got a scolding telling me I should have joined my sister in the bar area instead of leaving her alone, even though she said it was OK for me to stay in front of the stage while she remained in the safety of the seating area of the venue. I do feel a bit bad about that, neither of us are used to being near a mosh pit that is constantly being sprayed with stage blood, and even though she said it was OK for me to stay there while she knocked back a beer or two at the bar, I do not want to think that I abandoned her.

 

[Rodafina]

She later found me and told me to enjoy the rest of the show in front of the stage, she just felt like sitting and watching the rest of the show from the seating in the bar area from that point forward.

If she gave you the okay and assured you she was happy to sit at the bar on her own, I don’t see where you’ve done anything wrong here. Sometimes, after a panic attack people like to be on their own for a little bit… At least I do. I also really don’t like it when I say I don’t need anything and people don’t believe me and don’t trust that I know what’s best for myself. I’m gonna go with trust what your sister said here and if she’s not upset about it, then no harm done.

 

[Stuttermabolur]

I think in your case it is always a safe bet to assume your mother is wrong. This is no exception.

 

[Aspychata]

If everything worked out fine, why point the finger and blame. Who cares, you both went, your sister found resolution. You enjoyed the front area, luckily there was a bar area for your sister. What's not to love here? I am confused. Are you responsible for everything wrong in the world? Tell your mom to Snap out of It.

Lots of moms rule by guilt trips. It's an effective way to make us doubt ourself. Which you are doing with this post. My mom told me, if you make a decision stand by it. It's not if it's right or wrong, it's your decision to make. You decided to move to the front to enjoy the show. Your sister made a decision to move to the back. Life happens.

 

[Outdated]

If it was my sister she would have been quite upset if she thought she had ruined my night out, I imagine it would have been similar for your sister as well. I think you did the right thing.

 

[BrokenBoy]

Funny you say this, I'm going to a GWAR concert this sunday.

But yeah, if your sister didn't care about you leaving her behind, then your mom should just shut up. I even bet she would have left her alone if she was in your shoes.

 

[Metalhead]

OK, now my mother is claiming I was a terrible host to my friend when she visited me the last couple of weeks because my friend said in front of my mother that one of the horror movies I showed to her was a bit too grisly for her liking. I told my friend my mother said that, and she said she was a grown woman and if she wanted me to turn that movie off, she would have asked me to. I think my mother just likes saying I am a terrible person for some odd reason.